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writes:I would like to approach my wife about using a dong in our sexual relationship, but would like some help on how to approach her. Since having 3 children, things aren't as tight as they used to be...and that's just fine. However, because of this expanded space, over time, I have discovered that when using my fingers to manually stimulate her, the more I am able to "fill her up" , so to speak, the more aroused and the bigger her orgasms seem to be when combined with manual or oral stimulation of her clitoris. Anyway, I don't think she's aware of exactly what I'm doing, but on certain occasions when she has been very relaxed and excited, I have been able to get almost my whole hand inside of her, and on these occasions, when combined with clitoral stimulation, she has had some absolutely earth-shattering orgasms. Afterward, she breathlessly says that it felt incredible and just lays there like a limp noodle. So I am thinking that a big silicon dong could do what I do with my hand?Part of me is afraid that if I tell her what's actually going on down there, that she might freak out about me just using my fingers in that way and not want to even let me do that anymore, let alone use a big dong. Are there women out there who use a big dong like I am proposing to do with my wife? Or men with experience on using a big dong with his wife or girlfriend?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 hi
i am confused! :) you are married to her and have been having a sexual relationship for X amount of years but you feel awkward about talking about this additional intimate thing??
anyway, how about you just suggesting or asking how she would feel about 'sex toys' to spice things up FOR HER (so she doesn't feel insecure that she is not enough for you now) if she is up for it, have a browse online, see what she fancies, point out the ones that you would like to buy for her. maybe start with something smaller instead of going straight for the ridiculously big scary looking ones, she might be happy to build up to those in the future.
if you suggest toys and she is not keen on the idea, just carry on using your hand the way you do already as it sounds like you are giving her a great time!
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reader, vospie +, writes (22 February 2011):
 I think the truth is, your wife is a little embarrassed to talk about how much wider her 'baby shute' is, that's why she says nothing when you put her whole hand up there. I don't know what it feels like obviously, but I'm pretty sure she knows what it takes and she's letting you do it for those orgasms. How can she resist! I think if you tell her what you're proposing, she would not sanction it explicitly but I think she would protest just because she can't bring herself to show her true excitement. Whatever happens, she will not refuse your whole hand so I don't think that is too much of a worry. Besides, isn't it more intimate for you when you use your hand rather than an artificial tool?
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