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writes: dear cupid,soo, back in december, i met this guy at school. i could pretty much tell that he was interested in me right from the start (i'm sorry if that sounded conceited; i really hope it didn't), but i never imagined myself falling for him in return. he was pretty different from about 98% of the guys i've gone for in the past (he was pretty hefty, i could smell cigarette smoke on him, and he had a little bit of dip stuck in his teeth). as soon as i started getting to know him, however, he started growing me (i even started to see how physically cute he really was, despite his weight). to make a long story short, we ended up admitting that we were falling for each other, and we went on two dates. and let me tell you, those two dates were absolutely AWESOME. being with him just felt soo natural; it was like i had known him all my life. we got to the point where we kissed, called each other baby, and started discussing becoming an actual couple.then, out of the blue, he randomly texted me and said that we couldn't date because he had too much going on to have a girlfriend...which i believed, because he was transferring to a new school and moving to a new town about two hours away. at the same time, though, i found it a little strange that he was saying that, because when he had first told me that he was moving, he seemed completely confident that we would be able to work things out.i went for about a month without hearing from him, and then one night, i got a phone call from him. he was talking like nothing had ever changed between us and saying that he still liked me and calling me baby and everything like that. well, needless to say, i kind of freaked out. don't get me wrong--i was happy that he was calling, but at the same time, i got upset, and i was really scared...because i didn't want to get my hopes up. i'm the kind of person who, when someone hurts me, i get kind of defensive toward that person as a way of trying to avoid being hurt again. i got REALLY defensive toward him, and in the middle of one of his sentences, i just kind of blurted out, "why did you call me?" in a way that i admit was not veryy nice.then, a few weeks later, my friend and i were screwing around on facebook, and he had said something about getting his first tattoo and was asking for opinions on what he should get. my friend replied back saying that he should get something to the effect of "dumbass" on his butt, and when she mentioned that she was with me, i didn't stop her (i was actually reading over her shoulder and laughing). well, he got pretty peeved when he read the message, and he ended up deleting me off of his friends list.now, i really regret my behavior. it was stupid, childish, and just generally uncalled for. although i never expected it when we first met, this guy actually did end up meaning a LOT to me. i really miss him...and i want to know if there's any way to get our friendship back (even if we can never date). what should i do?
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 apologize in a casual way...say "u do realize i didnt expect u to dissappear right?".... he needs to tell u why he vanished. ur not the only one in the wrong here.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Simple ring him up and apologise for your behaviour. Tell him exactly how you felt and why you done it. When we make mistakes the only thing we can do is apologise and try our best to make it up to that person and show them how much we care. So you need to call him and apologise and tell him how much he means to you and explain to him why you done what you did. Goodluck sweetie. Am sure he will forgive you.
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