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writes:Ok so a little over a month ago my girlfriend found out i sent some pictures to some girls. we broke up and now we talk and text a little but not to the extreme. there has been days where we dont talk at all and days where we talk all the time. also she has told me she never wants to talk to me or ever be friends with me. and then says i want to be friends and if something develops i'm ok with that. we have hung out a little bit since we broke up and i still have a lot of feelings for her but she is seeming really distant like shes uncomfortable. i really am sorry for what i did to her it happened one time one night and it never went any further than a picture.she leaves in march to student teach overseas and i'd really like us to be on great terms. Can anyone help me out on what i should do? i almost feel like she is playing games with me. but i really love her we were together for almost 5 years all through college. i even have a ring bought! i just want us to be and i'm not sure what i need to do to maybe make it so we can and make things better before she goes? please help. any suggestions would be nice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have talked about it. and she says she really doesnt want to rush back into things so i told her i am fine with that. i do understand that she doesnt know if she can trust me yet and that it will take time. i cant put blame on us not having sex for why is sent the pictures. i really dont know why i did i wasnt thinking and now i feel so dumb because it has really made me realize how great she is and how much i want to be with her. i want to be with her for the rest of my life. i honestly just made a real stupid mistake and im so sorry to her for that. i dont want to tell her about the ring because im afraid shell think its a pitty gift. i just want us to be on better terms before she leaves and if were not together but are closer im happy with that. i really feel her being gone will help both of us out and we wil realize what we have or had. if we dont get back together than i understand because i messed up. i just hope we can be friends out of all of this and not just friends who talk every so often. i want to be there for her through thick and thin i want her to be able to trust me and tell me everything again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have talked about it. and she says she really doesnt want to rush back into things so i told her i am fine with that. i do understand that she doesnt know if she can trust me yet and that it will take time. i cant put blame on us not having sex for why is sent the pictures. i really dont know why i did i wasnt thinking and now i feel so dumb because it has really made me realize how great she is and how much i want to be with her. i want to be with her for the rest of my life. i honestly just made a real stupid mistake and im so sorry to her for that. i dont want to tell her about the ring because im afraid shell think its a pitty gift. i just want us to be on better terms before she leaves and if were not together but are closer im happy with that. i really feel her being gone will help both of us out and we wil realize what we have or had. if we dont get back together than i understand because i messed up. i just hope we can be friends out of all of this and not just friends who talk every so often. i want to be there for her through thick and thin i want her to be able to trust me and tell me everything again.
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reader, Cielito  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 what do you want with this girl? to be friends, a relationship? why were you sending a picture to another girl? if its harmless can you talk about it with your ex girlfriend? if its not harmless then why?
i can imagine from your girlfriends point of view she maybe doesn't trust you anymore and its hard to be close when theres no trust. its like opening yourself to be hurt again. can you find a way of understanding why she is upset by what happened, maybe its more complicated than just a photo. find a way to gently show her she can trust you, maybe mention the ring to show you are serious about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry its just picture not pictures!
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