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*ake111
writes:I am in a relationship with a girl who was born in China. We live in a rural area of England where nearly everyone is white (including me). I often have questions or discussions I want to start that involve her race but I feel like she may be sensitive to it growing up in our town. How do I talk about the differences between us? It's really hard. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 February 2007):
Baby blue fairy is right, she would be appreciative that you are sensitive to her feelings. But i really wouldnt be worried about offending her. Just ask her nicely about whatever it is you want to know. She will probly be happy that you are interested. And if you love her you are bound to be interested arnt you. Just ask her, i really really dont see how she could be offended over non-offensive and non-racist questions. If she gets moody over you asking questions shes either uptight or your maybe being to personal.
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reader, baby blue fairy +, writes (12 February 2007):
well it seems you like her, as your being sensitive of her feelings (girls love this!) just sit down and talk to her tell her about you and how you would like to know more about her if our open with her you will almost always get the same in return. but be careful its understandable that she could take this the wrong way you really do not want this so tell her!!
hope this helps best of luck
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Maybe you can ask her if she ever thinks about the place she was born in, if she misses it. Tell her you are curious about Chinese culture and traditions and that if it's okay with her you would like to ask her a few questions. If you are good friends, surely she won't mind.
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