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writes:Hi aunts, I need some advice. I have a girlfriend and I absolutely adore her, she feels the same way about me, and I'll never do anything to pressure her or hurt her. See I'm a pretty nice guy (14), really sensitive and caring, I'm not like those jerks out there who just want to have sex with girls... but I get really horny really easily (I'm a really horny guy) and just being with her makes me feel all tingly inside. I think I have over 5 erections every day, I think I must have a high sex drive..I've been thinking about having sex with her but I don't really want to lose my virginity this early even though I do love her. I masturbate but I feel like she should be there with me. Should I have sex with her, or at least do oral?? Any thoughts and input are accepted.Thanks
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reader, aboveandbeyond  +, writes (28 March 2009):
Hey, you seem like a cool guy! Yeah, I am a little bit older than you, but I think if you know what you want to do when you are not feeling horny and that you talk to your girlfriend as well you should be fine and not regret it! I'm guessing your smart enough to use protection and that so it should all be fun! XD
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reader, 333 +, writes (7 March 2009):
I think you're way too young. I am 15 and I am definitely not ready to have sex. I think you should wait a little more. When you are 100% sure of your decision. French kissing is a great option in my opinion and a turn on-then again that would make you extremely horny and lead you to do something you might regreat later. Be patient and wait. I know you love her but you're a little too young for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah i know...
i dont know why girls are attracted to those jerks who just treat them horible!!!
well me and my girlfriend have talked about it..and she said she wouldn't mind doing oral...but i told her we could wait a little bit longer if she wanted..
so now we're just sticking to dating, making out and cuddling...
thanks to everyone who answered
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): It's gonna be a shock when you eventually start figuring out that the majority of young girls actually want "those other jerks" more than guys with your attitude.
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reader, steffy-boo x +, writes (4 March 2009):
 as my personal opion i think you shouldnt have sex at your age there are so many risks involved as you may allready know but if you dont hear are a few you may wont to consider sexualy traqnsmitted infection making sure the comdom is fitted correctly making sire it been kept in an envioment that wouldnt have destroyed it ect ect the fact is if something goes rong for example the condom splits or isnt correctly placed on you and ur girl friend exspecialy he rwill have to live with the consquences like if you hadnt told an adult about what you was doing for example talking to ur parrent and seeing what they think or so they know but never go against ur parrents if they say no becasue if something goes wrong then you live the consiquence of them and all thats come wiith this, ok and another one if some thing goes wrong and she isnt allowed to have an abortion either because the parrent or gardian is againt this this will effect her education but this is something to consider i am only giving you imformationg adn poion i know of. it is natural for a male and femal at ur age to get horny some time and feel this way this is to do with ur hormones they simple havent settles yet and they wont for a few year in some cases. also to relieve this yea mastibate there is nothing i mean nothingwrong with this at all when u are on your own this will relieve any feeling that you may feel sexualy down by and testosterone build up however to some people and possibly your parrents they may find you both masterbating or you masterbating with her or towgether wrong and so u may wont to consider there feelings even if you go ahead and do so alwasy think of them being you are underage for sex some people think against thisi also remember you may adore this girl and she may be the most lovelyist girls but she wont be the last i am sure i was there onece i was madly in love soon to see people change even if they say they wont unfortuatly they do not alwasy bad but they do so maybe consider are you really ready yet y not wait untill ur the right legal age then u can do what u like as nothing can be done about it as it ok in the laws eyes any ways yea.
ok right i think you should talk to your partner first and see how it goes from thre really but dont jump right into it stariaght aways talk about it over a few months say 3-4 months this will allow you and your girl to have time to thinf if this really what you want
if you do please please please use contiception
steffy-boo x
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reader, mace +, writes (4 March 2009):
 that is very wise of you dude hold on till you are 100% certen you are ready and dont worrie about erections they are ok i remember that so please dont worrie there are many ways to exprese your feelings to each other then sex it is pretty mutch over rated unless your with the right person there are kissing,cudling,yes oral,mastabating together but that is entirly up to you and her to talk about just take your time and dont rush things talk to her about things first ok dude
mace
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reader, PrincessSmithee  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 14 is a bit too young to be honest.
How long have you been together?
and is this your first reltionship, because everyone gets all 'in love' in the start of a reltionship.
I say atleast wait til your both 15 or 16.
I wouldnt make a move to have sex or oral becuasee she might be not as horny as you and not even have thought about sex and stuff as shes still young.
Plus she mght get scared and think 'He wants sex oh gosh, run!' or put off becuase she thinks you want one thing if you havent been together long.
I think you should wait becuase your risking losing her.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (4 March 2009):
 Oooh, how I adore you. The classic penis vs. brain struggle, but you sound like you're smart enough to be thinking with you head at least!! I think that it's great you and your girlfriend get along so well, and I think it's marvelous that you don't want to pressure her or hurt her. I do think that waiting is the best plan for both you and your girlfriend, but there are lots of other fun things to do in the meantime!
I think hold off on the oral for at least another year, give yourselves time to keep having fun and exploring each other and your sexualities. Don't worry, you'll get there and when you do, it'll be amazing. But there's no rush. Once you start, you've got the rest of your life to enjoy it. Keep masturbating, to keep that edge off. Nothing is wrong with masturbation, even if you have a girlfriend. Maybe she'll want to enjoy that with you, i.e. handjobs or just watching, but I wouldn't push that until you feel like the timing is right and she's totally comfortable and open to the idea.
You sound like a teenager on the level - you're a rarity, that's for sure! Your girlfriend is a lucky lady. Keep things classy and respectful and try to keep things above the waist for a little while longer.
Good luck, sweetness!
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