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41-50,
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writes:I am going out with this girl with whom sex is great, however she doesn't like me going down on her. She says it is nothing she has never enjoyed with me or anyone else. I, on the other side, take much pride in my cunnilingus skills and I have been told, by several women, to be "the best" at it. I know this girl likes penetration but I do not really know if she has even experienced an orgasm, even though she says otherwise. I would like to have much wider and complete sex experiences with her, one which involves much more than penetration, how should I do so that she lets me kiss, suck, stroke, caress her whole body without getting defensive or self-conscious?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Ask her what it is about a guy going down on her she doesn't enjoy. Maybe in the past the guy/s haven't done things quite right to get her off. Maybe they didn't like doing it so she felt she had to not like it too.
Explain you quite like doing it and see if you both can't come up with a compromise.
Ask her what she would like to try and what she doesn't. Talk about what you like and dislike at the same time to stop her feeling shy and self conscious.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (14 July 2007):
 Take it slow. Tease her all evening, it may take several hours so pick a night or afternoon when you're both in a romantic mood, and nothing absolutely nothing is bothering her. Only one glass of wine though, you don't want her too buzzed to where she is in-sensitive. If women have told you you're the best, well my first reaction is they haven't had me, but that's my ego talking, because I have been told the same thing by several women. At any rate it definately sounds like you got game. The one thing to remember in foreplay is not the physical, it's the mental. Tease her mind, tell her over the phone before you see her what you're going to do to her. Let her know that you want to lick her sweet...so bad that you can taste...well you get the point. Wine her, dine her, and grind her. Make her feel like she's the only woman in the world for you. Mental first...Give her what she wants, what she needs, "A man".
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