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writes:I have this really good friend who is female and we have known each other for a while now and we have talked about being more than friends and sgreed we would rather keep it at that tah have a relationship that may not last. But the problem is we keep falling out and I hate it a lot of the problems arise from trust issues I know she lies to people about a lot of things but she swears she does not lie to me and gets quite upset about it. We had quite a nasty fight and nearly fell out for good the other day and sorted things out and were fine yesterday but today I txt her to say morning as normal and asked how she was and she never replied I tried again and got a very curt reply when I asked why she had the hump with me she replied she didn't and why was I starting a row again and now won't talk to me I do not know what to do to sort things out and how to trust her and stop falling out all the time as I would hate not to have her as a friend. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): Take her you fool. She needs convincing it won't fail.
Instead you agreed, 'erm yes, lets be friends it will probably fail'.
Your supposed to disagree with her and convince her it will work.
Come on get with the beat your over 30 years old, no wonder she keeps falling out with you.
Good luck
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reader, shiraz +, writes (28 September 2008):
hiyah maybe this is her way of telling you she needs space? she seems and insecure person and she might not realise shes actually pushing you away. you need to talk, tell her how you feel. youve accepted that she lies and has trust issues so you obviously like her so dont let it go she might not realise what her actions are doing. There may be a reason why shes being so distance so let her know you are there for her this secruity may make her change her ways towards you. you both need to sort out what your really want and where you are in a relationship dont waste a good frindship. She might need you right now and this is her sign? either way you need to sort it sooner rather than later best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2008): Hey! i am going through the exact same situation with my best guy mate.. its kind of crap :( Ive know him 5 years.
Its best to give her space to think about what she wants- maybe she had feelings for you that were stronger than what you thought and needs time to "see you as a friend" kinda way again! Thats why she is being a bit distant with you at the moment
Do not lose the friendship over this- who knows what could happen in the future between you two! :)
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