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female
age
41-50,
*rancesca
writes:Hi... I'm so low and confused....i feel to old to feel like this, but this is how it is!This is a follow on from a question dated 22/8/08 Sex is starting to slow down. Is this normal so early in a relationship?" if you would please read.sex never picked up and my now ex continued to be insensitive and hard towards me... the lack of sex subject effected me so much i even dreamed about him with other women... it was awful and made me so insecure... he noticed i was odd one morning and asked what was wrong with me... so i told him, his responce was "oh god, your like because of a stupid dream". all i wanted was comfort and he dismissed my feeling... this subject of him continuing to be hard with me made me low for a couple of day, so i raised the subject by trying to talk it through... he didnt want to understand and said that he would not change... this left my saying that if he continued to be hard with me, he would end up pushing me away but i also put it on a plate to sort this out and that i love him dearly... the last time i saw him was during this same convosation and he said we will see how it goes, it would be good if we stayed together and that he had come to far to even consider going back to his seperated wife for 2 years... ... however with in a few hours he went back to his wife.... two weeks before he moved in offically by giving up all his independance, the following week he bought my a car then 5 days later he moves back to his wife...i wonder if he jumpped ship coz he thought it was easier...or had he made a mistake with her as she changed her mind to sign the divorce paper, all of a sudden... ... he told me things like he had never told any one he loved them before, except his wife i guess. never would of given up his independance, wanted to build a future with me, all the good stuff........ what do i do? do i carry on trying to get over him or do i try and get him back. i know he is not everything to look at.. but i still love him greatley and miss him like mad....please advise me i feel so alone..francesca...
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (28 September 2008):
 First of a all, you are never too old to feel like this. Emotions go on until the day you meet your maker.
He went back to his ex-wife? How Awful for you. What can you do? What I would do is to try to talk to him ONE more time. Afterwards, if things don't work out, then perhaps it will be time for you to move on.
Good luck Hon XXX
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