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anonymous
writes:ok well here is my problem..i have a crush on this guy and i told all my friends about it..as in 4 of my good friends..do u think i should have not told them or rather kept it a secret..i just got to know these people recently may be a few months i dont trust them that much though.. and among my friends one is kinda bitchy although we are good friends..i dont want anyone to know about my crush..u know how it is in school rumours spread..people talk,i would die if my crush ever found out..because he thinks i dont like him and thats how i want it to be until he feels the same about me..i have told my friends not to tell anyone i hope they dont..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea may be your right i definitely dont want platonic..i will work on it soon and i really hope i can give u a positive answer soon..thank u soo much
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I see. Well, if you forget the talking you have nothing to work with. You have to ask yourself if you want a platonic love or a boyfriend.
Go ahead, do it.
Got the answer?
If you want to start a relationship, just reread my replies to help you with specifics and go for it. Be positive and enjoy it. I really hope for your success!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thats the prob anonymous..we dont hace common friends and plus he is not that of a social person,he has selected people who he talks too,he is more of shy and quite,since he does not respond to girls that much althoug they are crazy about him people call him gay lol..which i hope he is not..i rarely see him because we have our exams comin up and after that i will never see him ever..if i have to do something it has to happen now..i always plan that if i see him i will smile or say hi,i gather up the courage but dont end up seeing him..if we were in the same class it would be easier as of now its really hard for me to see him forget the talking!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Hello again, glad you liked it.
If you have had no contact yet with him, you could do the following:
- Have a friend introduce you, if there any mutual friends;
- If there aren't mutual friends, you could befriend an acquaintance of his that studies with you, if you feel that is easier. Then proceed as aforementioned;
- Go talk to him
The latter sounds more complex than it is. Just go near him, say hi and ask something, or make a general comment. If the male is interested, he will generally keep the conversation going. You should do it too. Examples:
At the library:
- Hi. Could you help me find xyz book?
At the mall:
- Hi. Do you know where the new ice cream shop is?
At the elevator:
- Hi. Sunny day today isn't it? (joking with you)
If he is reading a book:
- Hi. Is that xyz book? I have loved it bla bla bla...
Anywhere:
- Hi. Couldn't help but notice your t-shirt/shoes. Where is it from?
It will depend on where you are. Use your creativity!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey anonymous whoever you are i loved your advise but i need to know somethig he is too shy this is the only reason we havent spoken yet..since we dont study together it is difficult for me to talk to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Chances are he may have already noticed. If you like him, have nice conversations, make it fun. Indirectly invite him somewhere. I mean, don't ask him directly to go out with you, but put it lightly, example:
- You are talking about movies.
You: -Oh have you seen xyz movie?
Him: Not yet!
You: I would really like to see it...
He should take the hint and invite you, if not, add this:
- Too bad all my friends have seen it and I have no one to go with...
You can do this with movies, icecream, dancing classes, art expositions, etc.
When you finally are on your date, don't be shy to treat him like a dear friend. You can hug him, hold hands, and he will know what's up. If your crush is savvy, the first kiss will come naturally.
Don't worry if he doesn't correspond. You have at least a new friend. And avoid behaviour that may be considered too friendly to the point of being promiscuous. Hold back a little bit, specially when you notice he is attracted. Never be pushy!
Good luck!
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Question, how are you going to know if he likes you? What if he feels the same as you and is waiting for you to like him back? If I were you, I'd tell him. If he laughs at you and you feel so bad you just want the floor to eat you alive, blame it on a dare. But that's immature and I wouldn't recommend it. Only use that excuse if you're desperate.Wishing you the best.xxx
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