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writes:i am having a totally nice and cute and decent boyfriend.i am truly lucky to have him.he was asking out a girl who we both see everyday.she is a beauty but a true ***** who changes guys everytime she wants and would go anywhere with any guy if she is not busy .he had been asking her out about 4 times.He really liked her.she rejected at all times.But they were good friends all through out.he wanted to make her a good girl but he did not succeed.Even now we see her everyday and she talks to him when she has somethign to ask.I find this so painful.sooo painful i don't know how to describe it.I suffer so much everytime they talk.My boyfriend has assured me that there's no such thing on his mind anymore and nothing to worry.But somehow I am so in pain...i got up to study now but i couldn't because i remembered this.he is a great guy ..he wil never cheat...but my problemis i feel that he still likes her in the back of his mind ...how do i get over it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe really loves me and i feel it.. but since we take the same classes..she tends to speak to him once in a while..they don't talk fun stuff or anything..just some plain formal talk..
but it kills me :'(
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (19 September 2009):
 It sounds like he tried with this girl, and she has no interest in him. What I think you're worried about is trusting your boyfriend. You say he's a great guy so maybe you might want to ask him to support you a little more and tell him why you're hurting over this, and, try and forgive him.
The other thing is maybe you should ask him if there's anything he can do to assure you that he's not interested in her anymore. I think as you said, he was trying to make an honest woman out of that girl, and she's not interested.
That being the case, try talking it out and understand if he knows you're really suffering and he loves you, he's going to be there for you to make you feel better about this.
When that happens you can trust him. I know you don't want her talking to him. And I think that's the reason why you hurt so much. Maybe he shouldn't bother with that girl anyway and instead focus on you. After all, you're the one who got the catch, the other girl really lost out on a decent guy.
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