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writes:hey everyone.im 15 and im worried that i wont get a boyfriend that actualy likes me for me. im not the prettyest kind of girl and not many people give me a chance in life. im worried that when im older i wont be able to start a family with someone that loves me.please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): you must be calm because the love will come on the right time
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reader, Cloud_Strife  +, writes (19 August 2007):
Don't worry, its actually a feeling thats normal. I'm a guy and I'm 17 feeling the exact same way. I have never had a girlfriend, and been heartbroken, brooding over that one person. Doing something like that would always make you feel that way. I recommend you go out with friends that make you feel good. Your 15 too, just go out and have the time of your life, start something new that you were afraid to do, anything like that takes your mind off of problems. I started skateboarding and honestly although I'm horrible at it, I no longer think about those things, the hobby keeps me extremely occupied. Doing those won't get your mind off of it though, the feeling will go away and come back, just once you've become more confident, have the time of your life, and don't wait for people to give you a chance, just go and take it. Other than that, the feeling will go and come, but once you start feeling better about your self about everything, they will come and go in less and less time. Also, when you do find that someone, you can look back at this and just laugh away! Enjoy your life, and make good use of it, we have one life, its not good to spend it depressed. See ya!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): Don't worry, its actually a feeling thats normal. I'm a guy and I'm 17 feeling the exact same way. I have never had a girlfriend, and been heartbroken, brooding over that one person. Doing something like that would always make you feel that way. I recommend you go out with friends that make you feel good. Your 15 too, just go out and have the time of your life, start something new that you were afraid to do, anything like that takes your mind off of problems. I started skateboarding and honestly although I'm horrible at it, I no longer think about those things, the hobby keeps me extremely occupied. Doing those won't get your mind off of it though, the feeling will go away and come back, just once you've become more confident, have the time of your life, and don't wait for people to give you a chance, just go and take it. Other than that, the feeling will go and come, but once you start feeling better about your self about everything, they will come and go in less and less time. Also, when you do find that someone, you can look back at this and just laugh away! Enjoy your life, and make good use of it, we have one life, its not good to spend it depressed. See ya!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): I thought this same thing when I was 15!! I think that is a very common thing to feel at that age. I have since had many boyfriends and now have children. You'll find the one. It may take a few tries, or it may be the 1st man you date. But in time it will happen for you no doubt. Plus at 15 you are still changing. You will look much different in a few yrs. time, not that you need to change but you said that you don't think you are good looking. My b.f. is considered to other ppl. to be not good looking but I like him for other reasons. So don't assume that looks are the determining factor in finding true love. Just be you and the man who is meant for you will come along!
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reader, skye +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Im so sorry that you are feeling this way. I was just the same as you. Infact, most people feel this way at some stage. Its perfectly natural. However, one day that will all change and your world will be turned upside down by a wonderful person who will love and care for you. Trust me on that one.
Would you believe that I first met my husband on a cold, rainy sunday morning one January while I was dressed in a bathrobe with dirty hair? Well its true! Millions of people have met their special someone in the place they would have least expected.
Looks arent everything either. I bet you are a beautiful young lady and everyone else can see it except you. Kindness, compromise, integrity and the ability to listen and show understanding to those around us are qualities of inner beauty and are of much greater importance in a lasting relationship. This is what a decent man will see in you above all else.
You are still young, dont be in such a rush to find your perfect partner and start a family. Learn just to be you first. When you are comfortable with yourself you will gain a certain confidence that is very attractive. You have the rest of your life to find "the one".
Take care,
Skye
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reader, LethalInjection-x +, writes (17 August 2007):
 There's plenty of people in your position love, &it's not as bad as you think.
Hmm, why don't you think about joining clubs for things that you really enjoy? You'll meet people who share your interests then, and you're more likely to meet people who like you for who you are.
You may have heard this before, but it does work.. If you feel that, as you put it, you're "not the prettiest kind of girl", then look in the mirror, and on a piece of paper, write down everything you like about your appearance. It can be the smallest thing, but it all helps. Everything single thing you like, write down. When you've finished, read through the list again, completely forget everything you don't like.
After that, write down everything you like about your personality, and at the end, read through that list aswell.
Through this, you should build some confidence in the way you look&who you are. &To a lot of people, confidence itself is very attractive.
Like a lot of people, you may be putting yourself down for no reason. There could be plenty of people who think you're pretty, but you yourself can't see it.
Learn to love yourself. You have plenty of time to find someone else. Enjoy yourself while you're young first, concentrate on having fun.
Personally, I think people's flaws and so called "imperfections" make them who they are. So you should be proud of them.
I hope that helped.
Message me if you ever feel like talking :]
xxx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 August 2007):
 Don't despair. Life is long and you will find someone who will appreciate you for who you are. When I was your age, I used to believe the same thing you believe now. Happily for me, things changed; I just had to wait some time.
By the way, who you are is not only your looks; who you are has to do with your personality, honesty, all your virtues. That is what a guy who truly appreciates you will look at first of all.
Take care.
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