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*inkerfariy999
writes:we have been fighting for the past few days and he dose this thing were he says things will get better and change then two or three weeks later it all gose back to the same old thing not showing interest not doing things i want in a man i really feel like i got married to soon i love him but i dont love the way he acts or treats me there is a long story about this and there is too much to type right now but all i no is that i have tryed to do everything i can for myself but it just never gets me any were he want to change me and not be ok with who i am i got married thinking things would change like he said they would i live in a state that i dont no any one and i think he is takin atvantage of that like i said before i try to have friends but i never works out for me everything just keeps getting worse and worse my body cant handle the stress any more i really have a gut feeling that my edward cullen is out there somewhere i no that sounds funny but thats how i feel i go to work come home and sit and do house work cook clean cloths and what ever els i need to do we live with his family right now and i feel like half the time i dont even belong here idk how to fix things any more with us i think its too late half the time i aske myself all the time what am i doing wrong or how much more can i take or how do i put my foot down i am so nervous to leave him its not even funny i promise i never thought i would feel like this i mean i cant even be myself around him any more i dont no what to belive any more with him im so just done with this and i really dont have any emotion any more about stuff cus we go through this all the time its the same thing over and over again he makes me feel so bad about myself i just dont no what to do i want to leave my gut tells me that everyday to just go but like i said im nervous too cus i been with him so long i dont no any thing els any more im traped and confused about everything in my life right now i just wish my perfict man would walk into my life and stay cus he want me for me and not for my body or looks or even to change me like my husband is trying to do like i really feel like he just uses me for head and thats it i dont never get any thing in return not a singel thing no sex no nothing idk pleas give me some suggestions or something thanks so much tinker Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 It is very difficult to give you an advice. You vented your emotions in a very heartfelt , passionate way, but you very little specific details about your situation, and what exactly makes it so unbearable, so anything one says might be off the mark.
I can only say that if the only reason why you feel you can't leave is because you have been with him long time... that's really not a reason. It makes little sense. It's like a guy who has been 10 years in jail, and , when it's time of being released, he says : Oh no, I think I'll stay. You know, I have been here for such a long time...
Change is always scary and only you can assess if it's the only solution left. If you really feel that you have tried anything possible and nothing worked, I guess it's time to consider leaving. You don't need to do it on the turn of a dime ( unless there is physical abuse going on ). Make a plan. Consider your options. Would you have a place to live ? Have you got family who would support you emotionally and / or practically when you leave ? Can you support yourself ? ...
And anyway- do not wait for Edward Cullen , he is not coming. And Prince Charming took a sabbatical.
But you don't need them to take charge of your life. You are your own Princesse Charming .
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reader, jimrich +, writes (13 September 2010):
re: i aske myself all the time what am i doing wrong
....wanna learn?
google: relationship tips
BTW, there is no such thing as the 'perfect man' but there is such a thing as adequate relationship KNOWLEDGE.
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