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anonymous
writes:Hello. My bf and I have sex about 5 times a week, but he still watches porn alone and masturbates. I have never had a problem with him watching porn, but does this reflect on me? Am I not enough?
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reader, motherhen  +, writes (14 September 2010):
Hi Honey,
If you are happy with your sex life then I wouldnt worry too much.
If he was choosing porn instead of having sex with you then yes, some cause for concern, but it sounds like this is not the case?
Are you happy with everything else in your relationship? Do you feel loved and attractive?
However if you have a problem with him using porn then maybe have the conversation with him and tell him how you feel. Many men like to masturbate every day (or more) but porn is NOT a requirement for that, just a preference. If it is upsetting for you and making you insecure then he may be happy to stop using it.
All the best
xxx
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Not a reflection on you at all. Some men need that 'alone' time no matter how much they love their wives (and they do). Try to be a part of the porn experience with him - watch, give a helping hand or mouth.
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reader, tomcumsonyou +, writes (13 September 2010):
I am married love my wife and we have sex several times a week, but i still watch porn several times a day and cum every time. not my wife nor any woman i know wants sex three times a day like i do. i prefer that she watch it with me, and she does a few times a week. i like to stare at her gorgeous nude body while i watch porn and when the guy on screen cums on his chick, i cum on my wifes -- face, tits, ass, shaved pussy etc. i never have sex with anyone but her.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 not a reflection on your at all. My fiance and i do sexual stuff every day, if not more, and he sometimes still goes solo. So long as he's not picking it over or instead of you (doesnt sound like it) there's no need to worry. :)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 No, it's not necessarily a reflection on you. If a guy is a considerate lover, he's going to go to some effort to make sure the whole experience is good for you. That means setting the right romantic tone, lots of foreplay, etc. If you're having a great experience, it makes for a great experience for him, too. But it does take some work, and sometimes a guy just wants to be selfish. He can have an adequate solo experience in five minutes and not have to worry whether it was any good for you. That's probably all that's going on here.
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