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*ickofboys
writes:i dont know what to do. my boyfriend treats me like shit. we have a baby and im 8 months pregnant again and he has a job so hes never really home during the day. i get up every morning with the baby and tend to the baby all day then my boyfriend comes home and i always have dinner ready and he doesnt even want it half the time, or complains about the smell and sprays stuff. when he is off work on weekends he sleeps in all day and i bug him over and over to get up, like i let him sleep in for a while then i start to bug him.. then he snaps and statrs ylling at me because hes tired.. meanwhile its like dont you think im tired??? i am basically a single parent and im 8 months pregnant.. he never tells me im a good mom or thank you for dinner or thanks for cleaning up after me for the past 3 fucking years.. he doesnt tell me im pretty, he doesnt ever say i love you.. i pay all the bill and he has a job and goes grocery shopping when he feels like it... i feel like im being used but i dont know what to doo... we moved to a new city and hes the only person that i know. every time i try to bring something up thats bothering me he screams as loud as he can right in my face.. he tells me everything is my fault and i try to blame everything on him. all i want is a family. i try so hard to be a perfect house wife.. ex. i cook clean laundry sweep mom bathroom everything and take care of the baby and im pregnant. im scared for when thisbaby arrives because im pretty much already all on my own. i have no friends cuz we just moved here and i feel so alone and i dont know what to do or how to make him appreciate me more.. like i know there are a million guys out there that would treat me like gold and love everything that i do.. i just wish he was one of themm.. i need some people advice and stuff please i dont know what to doo anymore.....
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 The reality ultimately is, he is not one of those million guys.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (20 December 2010):
You can do one of two things.
Stay and be miserable.
Leave and be happy.
He is a drag on you as a person, and you should not deal with this. You are a mother and your kids only need positive influences on their life. They are better off with a good single mother than a mother-father package with a useless father.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Well if u are on ur own make it official. He sounds like a selfish ungrateful prick. if he screams at u when u try to communicate then he is a child. U can go from three kids to two by dumping him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): If you are this unhappy you need to leave. Do you have a parent or friend you could go stay with for a while?
If you dont want to do this, as he yells at you when you mention things, write him an email or letter explaining how you feel. Explain everything calmly in this letter and say if he doesnt recognise how you feel and change, then you shall leave.
It seems like you do everything around the house - see how he feels when you're gone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): seriously, you have to tell this guy that you deserve to be respected! why have you been dealing with this for so long anyway? if i were you- i would try to sort it out, but if worst comes to worst, take your kids and get a divorce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): seriously, you have to tell this guy that you deserve to be respected! why have you been dealing with this for so long anyway? if i were you- i would try to sort it out, but if worst comes to worst, take your kids and get a divorce.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 If this has been going on for 3 years, why the hell are u still having kids with this usless excuse for a man???? I mean seriously, you need to tell him all of this, otherwise it'll never change. You say you have noone to turn to...turn to him and tell him to buck up his ideas!!!
I used to be like you, i used to be a door mat, time for you to stand up for yourself, either move out, or give him the kick up the arse that he needs!!
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