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writes:I'm in a bit of a dilemma right now. I have been in love with this guy for about half a year now and I will probably never get to be with him because he is going to uni this year and after that, our paths may never cross again. I'm only going to see him for one last time in a few weeks (we both go to the same Sunday sports group). I don't know what to do, as we've always talked like we have known each other for years when I’ve only known him since last year, and he always gives me warm smiles and shares jokes, but he is just generally such a kind hearted person. No one has ever liked me before, so I have no idea whether he likes me back and I’m scared of rejection. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2012): Thank you all so much for your responses, they have given me a better insight :D 3
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reader, Abella  +, writes (11 June 2012):
 Find the courage to go up to him. Wish him well. Keep it simple and hand him a copy of you email address. And tell him that you hope he does well at University as you pass him your email, suggesting with a smile that he, 'keep in touch'.
Declarations of love for him would be inappropriate and too dramatic. Let the ball be in his court if he wishes to keep in touch. And if he wishes to contact you. By offering him your email you are inviting him make contact.
If there is any light hearted suggestion to attend a farewell casual function then do attend.
Declarations of him being your long term crush might be premature. If his family live in your area he will be back. And eventually your paths may match. And he may even keep in touch with you while he is at University.
If he is interested then he will take the cue and find a way to connect with you if he is interested.
And it is not true that he may never see you again.Life is stranger than fiction and reunions of people do happen where they have not seen each other for ages. And yet the reconnection is immediate when they do meet again.
Conversely, impossible that it may seem right now, you may meet another guy who you adore and who adores you beyond your imagination right now.
Good luck with this
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (11 June 2012):
 It looks like you are scared of more than just rejection there.
You're also scared that you are going on different paths already and feel like you will never find someone who will make you feel like that again.
All I can say is that I have been there, and trust me, distance in a relationship is your worst enemy.
My advice would be to not worry about it, have fun with him, but know that there will be other guys in the future for you :)
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reader, Honey Sweet +, writes (11 June 2012):
 I generaly think its a bad idea hunni xxx because like you said you'll never see him again and If you pour out (like I have done before)you get disappointed because no matter how many cycles you turn or tweaks you pulled to make something to happen its going to be so difficult you'll get hurt more x since you need a lot of time together during the begining to make it into something it will be almost impossible. But after a while you'll fine someone else. Well you're only twenty odd or a bit below. Trust. From guy to guy you will go. And I know you get the ones that are there for maybe years x but you respond to it better as time moves along x as I say to myself now everyday, be practcle. Be real. No getting hurt x I hope this message doesn't sound depressing as it looks and I hope this helps a bit x
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