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writes:I am a girl teen virgian and i like to watch porn so when i do have sex ill be ready is that weird and is in normal to masturbate?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): Masturbating is normal, and healthy. Keep up the good work(: haha.But honestly, it's not weird at all you watch porn. It's informative.. I guess you could say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): I think I fall outside of the male minority of men who have sex young, because I only had sex for the first time this year! (Not embarrassed btw) So I’ll comment:The way you’re talking about porn and comparing it to sex is misleading. I just hope you don’t look at porn like some sort of guide because pornstars are just actors. Their bodies are use to overstimulation. You and your first experience is about as real as it will get so, masturbate all you want because it’s normal, but don’t think that that’s how sex will feel and be like, because it won’t - It’s better.I masturbate over porn but I hate myself every time I do. Stupid compulsive obsession I have. My girlfriend has never looked at the stuff so I don’t know how much of a good thing looking at porn really is...But some guys (and gals) love that though. Goodluck to you and have fun with it :P
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reader, Ldu  +, writes (29 September 2010):
Porn is like a Action Movie, cool to watch entertaining but NOT REAL LIFE. If you watch porn its ok nothing really wrong with that, just bdont make the mistake of thinking thats what real sex is like and how its suppose to be done. But hey if you can have sex like a pornstar.......kuudos to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): Hi there,I also masturbate regularly and I think that's completely normal.No matter how much porn you watch, your first sex will be a leap in the cold water and it's normal to be nervous then. I also tried to learn how to have sex with guys by watching porn, but it didn't really work.. I mean, they don't show things like e.g.1) undressing and undressing your partner, 2) telling you would like to use a condom (important!), 3) overcome the nervousness, 4) knowing how to touch what, 5) saying stop if something hurts or feels awkward, 6) what to do if the guy is too nervous to get an erection 7) kissing, hugging, laughingetc. etc.At least I knew what an erection or testicles look like, so I guess watching porn wasn't completely useless. The good thing is: Having sex is not (!) difficult, really, if you figure it out with a nice guy you're in love with. Don't worry about "technique". You'll learn that faster than you think.And besides: It's much easier to get the man to have an orgasm than to get the girl to have one. So, just get to know your body and enjoy it. Then you can show your boyfriend how to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): It's normal to masturbate but I wouldn't look at porn to see what real sex is like.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Try to find a copy of the Karma Suttra online.. they have descriptions of a hundred kisses and a hundred touches, things which are neglected in porn but are more like the reality of sex with a partner that you love or you like.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (27 September 2010):
Masturbation is normal and healthy for anyone who has sexual feelings. Pornography is sexual entertainment for adults, for use as part of a couple or as a masturbation aid for use alone.Candygirl is absolutely right, porn is entertainment and can cause confusion in virgins who haven't had sex. Many of the sex acts shown are extreme are not enjoyed by many people. Yes, you can get advice and information from pornography, but it's use as an educational tool is for adults who have been having sex for many years and find themselves getting bored.http://www.dearcupid.org/question/bennefits-of-porn.htmlPorn is unrealistic.. In pornography women always have orgasms through penetration (not true) pornography follows a script, oral sex, penetrative sex, then ejaculation on face or body.. normal sex is not like this.. for a start, there is more emotions, more cuddling and kisses and many more laughs. Ejaculation usually takes place within the vagina, anal sex is rare. For these reasons porn is useless as a teaching tool for people who haven't experienced sex. But may be useful to adults who have had sex and want some new ideas.Pornography is meant for adults 18years and older, because we are less impressionable, and we know how to distinguish what is fantasy made for the camera's, and what is normal sex. Teenager's don't have the experience to do this, and come to believe that all they see is totally true.Pornography is fantasy, made to excite and turn you on. However, the people are actors, they work hard to make it look like they are having fun. When they go home to their husbands, wives and lovers, they do not have sex like this. If you look at pornography, you will see, the man is always in control, he tells the woman what to do. The house they have sex in is always clean and the woman always wears make up.Real sex is not like this at all. Pornography is like a adult fairy tale or like a movie from hollywood, it takes bits of sex activity and highlights the things that people like to watch but might not enjoy in real life.Look at porn if you find it sexy, but it will not be able to teach you about healthy sexual activity. Your better off reading the women's magazines, talking to your mother, sister's and aunts, or your friends, and finding out about their experiences.Good luck, we understand what your doing, but porn makes male pleasure all, and it dosen't show much of what is good for women about sex and loving.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (27 September 2010):
 It's normal to masturbate! But remember there is a huge difference between being ready physically for sex and ready emotionally for sex. Word to the wise: porn is designed to be sold, it's not designed as a teaching tool. Don't believe everything you see. In fact, I think it would be better to lay off the porn for now. Take care!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Masturbation is totally normal and healthy (and will definitely lead to a better sex life) yes, but you shouldn't be looking to porn for sex ed. It's very unrealistic, it's a world where people screw and it's devoid of any emotions (often devoid of even physical attraction it seems) or attachment. It also shows people having unrealistic sex and shows unrealistic things to do. Like anal and a money shot in every video. While obviously some people do these things, it is not the norm.
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reader, WhateverMovesThee +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Not weird but I wouldn't reccomend it. Porn can be quite misleading about sex. It's not a guide! Some of the stuff is quite graphic and NOT what the average couple do in their bedrooms. If you want to "be ready" masturbation is a good way to learn about your body and what gives you pleasure or doesn't. But pornos usually focus on the guy's pleasure because thats their target audience. Seriously, don't look to it as an instruction manual. When you do have sex (hopefully with someone who loves you and you love), you will learn from each other and take care to please one another selflessly. Then, sex wont be empty. Also, one thing porns don't show is safety. Unprotected sex is VERY RISKY! No way is that acceptable. The pill is fine but to be used WITH condoms. So hon, wish you the best.
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reader, RainyDays93 +, writes (27 September 2010):
There's nothing wrong with masturbating. It's perfectly normal and most people do it.However don't compare porn to what sex will actually be like. It is nothing like it. It gives you wrong ideas of body image.Also you should understand, porn is just sex, there is nothing intimate about it. The main part of having sex should be the connection between you and the person you are making love to. You should have sex with someone you really love. It's what makes it so special. It's like a connection between you and them. It is something only two people who love each other should share.Please don't let porn make you feel bad about yourself physically. It isn't real.
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reader, candygurl +, writes (27 September 2010):
Lol watching porn doesn't make you ready to have sex you have to be ready on your own. Porn is for entertainment not an educational video. If you are thinking about having sex talk to your mother or doctor or go to dem free clinics because porn jus show what different ways u can have sex and not the possiblity of getting pregnant or catching a std. Whoever u decide to lose ur viginity to make sure he's the one and talk to him about it. And yes masturbating is totally normal, its better than having sex only because its safer
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