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writes:What do I do? I have been broken up with my ex-girlfriend for 3 weeks now. Of course, I'm still sad, but I have accepted it's over. I have no sort of disillusionment in wanting her back. I just want to move on. What's gnawing at me is I still do not understand the break-up at all!We were together for a great 7 months. Then, one day she calls it off. Telling me she's not "in love" with me. Her words and actions up to that point SCREAM the opposite. I mean, the week before she was buying my clothes and asking for my summer schedule so we could plan time together. The week after she was supposed to take me to meet her grandparents and spend Easter with her fam! This was a total blindside. I guess it's closure I'm looking for. This great disappointment I have burning inside my chest is hard to bear sometimes. I haven't contacted her or spoken to her at all since the break-up. I am dying to know the reason for all this! What do I do?Any advice would be helpful!
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (15 April 2010):
 There are a lot of things that could have happened.
My guess is though that she really did find someone else more suited for her. Not that he was better than you, but he might have been someone more her type, or someone she got along with better. Who knows?
There probably wasn't a concrete answer at all. Maybe things just weren't going well for her, and she finally gathered up the courage to end it. I mean she could still love you, but unfortunately it takes a little more than love to make a relationship work. :)
You need to stop worrying about the idea of closure. Know that in most break ups, there isn't any closure at all. That's why break ups occur so quickly and unexpectedly, all it takes is one person to be unhappy for any given reason and things are done. I know it's really hard, and your brain is searching for an excuse to continue to mull things over, but you need to stop thinking about things. A lot of people aren't given the luxury of closure in a relationship, which just means that no matter what the reason, it just wasn't meant to be. People change their minds, and sometimes it has nothing to do with you! Best of luck.
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reader, King Farnham +, writes (15 April 2010):
King Farnham is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSure, I think there could be another someone, but someone better? That's harsh!Gee, thanks for your help! I'm trying to move on and I know she's not the one for me. I thought that was in the message I wrote in different terms.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 She probably found some one better . Accept the reality and move on . She was not the one for you .
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