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writes: I have an urgent question and in dire need of some help. I have been hanging out with this girl for a couple of weeks now and she is single as am I and we just totally clicked with each other we spend most of the time talking to each. People also noticed this and think of us as a couple already. I like her but I haven't told her and her friends tell me she likes me but I don't want to mess up our friendship if I ask her out. This is where everything is messed up, yesterday her best friend had asked her out which he also happens to be one of my friends. And I still haven't told her how I feel about her or even if I should at all. I was talking to her today and she was telling me that's she was planning on saying yes to him and I want to tell her how I feel but I don't want to put her in a situation where she has to choose. I also know that I will regret it if I don't tell her how I feel so I let her know yesterday that I did like her. She didn't respond to it in anyway and changed the subject and later that day she agreed to go out with him instead of me. Now I talked to her that night and she had a volleyball game and my original plan was to ask her after the game no matter what had happened but she had already said yes to my friend. Well that night I talked to her and she did tell me that she liked to hang out with me and she did in fact like me but it feels like it's too late to do anything about this. The next day I walked her to school and it was so awkward we didn't say anything to each and just stayed kind of distant. I don't know what to do I really like her but she is going out with my friend now and I don't want to turn against him or anything I just want to be with her. I like her a lot or should I just stop talking to her and let it go, although I told her I would never give up on her. It makes it worse because I see her every day. I promised to walk her in the mornings because she is scared and I always keep my word and we have a class together so please tell me what I can do. I could really use some help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): I have the same thing happen to me recently. I really like this girl and we're very good friends. Unfortunately from your question it sounds like you're much closer. So as close friends she should be really cool about all of it and this other guy, if he is your friend he should be supportive about it aswell. The girl i like likes one of my friends but won't do anything about it. I told her how i feel and she is really cool about it and this other guy i talked to and said he won't do anything about if i'm not confortable. So my advise is to talk to both of them. Good luck mate.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 November 2005):
 I think you should stay friendly with her and wait out the relationship she is having with your friend. If it fizzles out you can then make your move without hurting anyone's feelings.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (5 November 2005):
she knows how you feel and she feels the same. you have to talk to your mate. if she said yes to him as a result of you leaving it too long, she may not really feel for him as she does for you. if this is the case, don't give up. but if she's happy with your mate, be happy for them both. wait to see how their relationship works out. if it doesn't, comfort her and ask her out but not too soon as rebound relationships rarely work. hope that's helped. good luck
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