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writes:Hi Everyone, i just need some help. yesterday i came home from my holidays and was told the most precious person in my life.. my nana, has a tumor. she has been ill for ages, and now we have had our worst fears confirmed. i am unable to cope with this whole situation, i am terrified and can't stop thinking about her, every minute i'm awake i'm thinking of her and worrying. they have done a biopsy to see if its defo malignant and if they can treat her. i guess i'm just talking to yous about it because i can't talk to anyone else. I can't deal with seeing my family upset, so me being upset will upset them. i'd rather keep quiet. i am starting uni on monday and i just cant see how i will be able to do it. how am i going to get my nana through this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): thanks for the replys. my nana had her results today. she has cancer in her liver, the primary is in her bowels, and now some in her bone. i am very very sad, i can't see life without her. how will i get by this? what can i do to make it better?x
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (12 September 2008):
The only thing that you can do is milk whatever time you have left. Doctors never know what will happen. My boyfriends grandfather was diagnoised with lung cancer about a year and a half ago. After treatment which was really hard on his body he was told he had six months to live about two months later he was told he was in remission. He is still hear alomost a year after he was told he would die in six months and he is now cancer free.Anyone can die at any moment what you need to do is spend as much time making memories with your nanna as possible and make sure that you let her know how much you love her. None of this is for her. When she passes on she will be in a wonderful place and by spending as much time as possible with her you will make it were you dont have any regrets because your nanna wont have regrets.I hope i helped and i wish you the best of luck.
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (12 September 2008):
 I sort of know what your going through, but at teh same time this is different.You see I just recently lost my dad, the person who knew me best. He was died because they wouldn't give him a liver transplant, even though he was a really good canidate they just wouldn't give him one. When I found out that he needed one in the first place it damn near killed me, I didn't talk about I didn't do anything I'd lie in bed crying on many days and I held it in so much that I go stomach ulcers. Don't let that happen to your self. Talk about it! Write about it! It may be painful and hurt more but the more you let it out the better because if you don't it will die inside you and nothing good can come out of that. To get your Nana through this is just to be there for her don't cry infront of her and keep telling her that she'll make it through that she's a toughy and she can do it, because believe me it got me dad through the day some days it really did.Message me if you want to talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): Unfortunately, I know EXACTLY what you're going through. My gramma was my everything. Ever since I was a little girl, she was the only one I could really count on. She was the only one that made me feel safe and secure. She was my side kick too.. we went every where together. Then one day, she got sick. Months later we found out it was Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma - CANCER. I was bound and determined to get her strong enough to beat this. She was 4ft 11in tall and weighed about 80 some pounds. Not much to her at all. I made sure she ate, we went out to eat all the time. I made sure she felt needed and loved. I poured positive affirmations on her every day. She ended up gaining almost 10 lbs. Things were looking all right. She was symptom free for 6 months. But then she took a turn. The tumor grew and she was now showing the signs of being sick. I had to say "farewell" to my gramma on Halloween 1995. And there isn't one day that goes by that I don't miss her and love her. Faith, Hope and Love will get you all through. What's going to happen is already written. If it's her time, just let her know how much you love her - which I'm sure she already knows. The day my gramma died, I believed she waited for me to get back to the hospital. She was basically comatose and her heart rate was irratic. I got there and it reverted back to normal...for a little while. I was able to hold her hand and sing, "Wind Beneath My Wings" to her. Then I said that it was Ok for her to let go and go be with Grampa and God... moments later, she passed. It was the saddest but one of the most special moments in my life next to me having my children. My prayers are with you through this difficult time. God Bless..
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reader, English chick! +, writes (12 September 2008):
 I know how you feel, but mine's a little diffrent.
When i found out my Grandpa had cancer i didn't know what to do... i really wanted to see him but they wouldn't let me. They siad it was better to remember him when he was healthy, but the last thing i'd ever said to him was 'Bye Fa!' and that was it. I'd hadn't seen him for 3 weeks and no matter what i coundn't get them to take me to him.
It was a while after my 10th birthday and he'd had cancer for a while now, but just as i thought they were about to tell me in my brother's bedroom that he'd made it...
They told me he'd passed on...
I still remember him even after two and a half years, and if your Gran makes it i'll be very happy for you, just be prepeard for what ever happens.
I hope you'll reply one day to tell me any news.
English chick xxxooo
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