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writes:I dont really know where about to start as this is a very long problem and been goin on a couple of years.in november 2008 i was sexually abused + was repeatedly abused every week for 18 months. I will not say anything about the attacker as im scared to tell police and have to face him in court, have my name in all in newspapers and for everyone i nkow to find out. I just want to get on with my life! it ended last June and since then i found an amazin boyfriend who understands my expirence and has helped me get consellin in september.. unfortunatly i found it too hard to talk to a stranger about what happened and felt i was gettin worse, therefore after 6 sessions i stopped. since then i have been happy and really enjoyed all my parts of my life, work, friends, family, and i have even been comfortable enough to even have a healthy, happy sexual relationship with my boyfriend, which i never thought i would! Life was so enjoyable until about a week ago and i been having nightmares about the attacks and have only 4 hours sleep each night.. makin me sad and angry and less paticent, its also maked me and my boy friend distance as he doesnt know how to help me now but desperatly wants to help, as he hates seein me like this and wants me back to myself.. please help us! we dont know what to do.. i tryed consellin and i just find it too difficult what else can i try? i just want the nightmares to go away.. but i know they may come back again in a few more months.. any ideas??
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Sounds like Post-Traumatic-Stress Syndrome.
Have you gone through rape counseling? If not, do that. If yes, go back.
You're hurting yourself emotionally and you need to get past this and back to enjoying your life.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 January 2010):
You have to go to counselling. This is a delayed reaction. You didn't deal with your trauma when it happened, and now it's coming back because you can't keep it locked up. Not only will they not go away I'm afraid, but they are likely to get seriously worse. I know you don't want to talk to strangers about it, but remember you've already come here and said something, so you're strong enough to tell someone else. It's very important you face your trauma, because it's going to get worse. So be very brave and seek help. There are specialist crisis centres with women who have been through what you have, so they will understand. Please be brave and get the help and care you need.
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