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writes:Hi everyone, this is my 3rd time asking a question on this website...thanks for all the great advice out there! Hope I can get sound advice this time round as well... :)Well I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 36 (the question I am asking does not relate at all to our age gap so please do not harp on it :)). I am currently waiting to go into university so I have quite some free time on my hands. To earn some extra income I am currently giving some tuition. Meanwhile, my boyfriend is a full-time tutor, so he really has to prepare for his lessons.He is also a tennis fanatic and tries to play tennis at least once a week. So today, he told me that he was not able to meet me as he needed to prepare for his work, and then went off to play tennis at night with his regular meetup group. I try to reason with myself that he also needed some time out himself, yet I can't help feeling somewhat pissed, as he could have met me during that time.It may seem a trivial thing, yet I really don't know if I'm being too sensitive. Please advise me on how to stop feeling this way! Thanks! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): To jayne_staaa,
Regarding the tennis sessions the group's playing on fixed nights of the weeks: Mon and Wed. So it's quite hard for him to reschedule to any other days as well as he has tuitions on those days.
And also I heard that some men's pov is that it is pointless for women to compare themselves to their favourite sport...? Not sure if that statement's true... =P
No offense to any guys out there...you're welcome to add your input so that I can know what guys think... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): Hey there, I'm the poster to the question. To be fair, he has compromised on a few occasions actually. Maybe why I'm feeling this strongly now is because it seems as if he would prefer going for a tennis session to meeting me, after a day of work. And this week he had already went for one tennis session.I guess I'm just afraid that it is me who is too demanding and selfish to want him by my side.
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reader, jayne_staaa  +, writes (20 May 2009):
yeah your right he could have seen you instead, i think you need to tell him how you feel. Your not being too sensitive at all i would be the same if my boyfriend picked a game of tennis over seeing me but maybe he was just being a dosy man, tell him he needs to prioritise what is more important you or tennis? tell him that you and him shud see eachother a certain amount of times per week and on the days hes not seeing you then he shud arrange his tennis.
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