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writes:First kisses are a big deal for everyone, right?I'm just wondering, my crush kissed me but did not fancy me, and I was his first kiss? Surely you wouldn't just kiss a random person you have no feelings for as your first kiss?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI refused to. Time and time again because he didn't feel the same but he persisted to ask me to kiss him. Eventually he kissed me. I did want to kiss him, so badly, but not in those circumstances, that's why I refused.
I guess the kiss meant something to me, because I was confused at the time about whether he liked me, (said he didn't but kept persisting), but I know what happened now, (or at least think I do). The kiss did mean something to me, even though I didn't want to do it. I'm in love with him, and it was a physical connection between us, (even just for a few seconds). I'm just not the kind of person who could kiss anyone who I don't have something with, who doesn't feel the same back for me, the reason why as much as I wanted to, I didn't kiss him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 November 2012):
 For some the first kiss means a lot for other not a thing. I'm guessing he kissed you because he could. He knew you would "let" him because you fancy him. Kinda taking advantage of the situation.
However if he tell you.. I don't like you but you can kiss me if you want to... then WHY on Earth did you WANT to kiss him, if the FIRST kiss is something you feel should MEAN something?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 November 2012):
 Because he felt that it was time for him to have his first kissing experience, and you served him the opportunity on a silver platter, without him having to sweat it and , and romance a girl and do all that pursuing that young , unexperienced boys are notoriously not good at.
No, most boys ( and quite a few girls too ) don't give a fig about whom they are getting their first kiss from, as long as they are getting it . It's more about the excitement of the novelty, the curiosity, and being able to tell themselves- and often their friends- that they have done a grown up thing.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (6 November 2012):
Everybody’s different. For some people a kiss isn’t that big a deal. For others it’s a big moment. Unfortunately, he obviously had his own reasons for kissing you if he doesn’t fancy you. Perhaps he wanted to experience kissing, perhaps he was hoping for something casual. Who knows. But try to make sure next time you kiss some-one, you know they feel the same and want the same things as you. But how do you know he doesn’t fancy you? Make sure you’ve not jumped to conclusions.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): Nope, first kisses generally don't mean crap to us guys OP. I don't remember mine at all. We don't watch movies or listen to songs dreaming about who'll be our first kiss we're more interest in boobs. We long for boobs and bragging rights at your age. Not romance.
"Surely you wouldn't just kiss a random person you have no feelings for as your first kiss?"
Why not? It's just a kiss and maybe she'll let us touch her boobs too. You're not the first woman we've kissed our mothers have been kissing us since we were born.
That said we're not all so shallow, you never know.
How do you know he's not interested in you anyway? Or are you just assuming he's not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I posted the scenario on here a while ago. He told me straight out that he didn't like me, (but used to), but I could kiss him if I wanted. Why would he choose to have his first kiss with someone he didn't like?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (6 November 2012):
 How do you know he doesn't fancy you? Did you know this before the kiss and do it anyway? Or did he pretend to like you and then backed off after the kiss?
My first kiss was with my best friend who is male and gay, though he hadn't come out at that point. I didn't fancy him at all. I wanted to get my first kiss out of the way. It didn't feel special at all!
Maybe this boy felt the same way. Perhaps he wanted to get the first kiss thing over and done with and knew that you'd kiss him.
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