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writes:Hey guys I was going to break up with my girlfriend on the friday coming but today she told me she doesn't want to loose me when I wasnt with her today, I didn't know she wanted to be with me that much I don't want to change my mind but I don't want to have to stand her crying what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 You can't stay with a person out of guilt so the best thing is to break it off. She will eventually get over it and the tears will dry, she will meet someone else. You have to look for your own happiness. Good Luck!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (8 June 2011):
 you can't stay with someone that you don't want to be with just coz they want you to and are making you feel bad by crying. if you break up with her she WILL get over you, surely it is better for her to be free than to cling onto a relationship with as lad who does not really want her? i feel sorry for both of you, i know its really awful when someone is making them self difficult to leave but an important aspect of dating is the ability to leave dud relationships, in a way which causes minimum hurt
try again to break up and if she cries again, maybe give her a hug but do stick to your opinion and make your exit
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 June 2011):
Sometimes, you have to make decisions that aren't going to be popular, even if they are the right decision. That takes courage, and this is the time for it. Believe me, it's much better than hiding the truth and turning out to be a bit of a wimp.
You know in your heart that you don't want to be with this girl, and that you want to break up. You need to make that decision sooner rather than later, and you need to tell her no matter what her reaction. Yes, she will cry. Yes, she will try to bargain with you. Yes, she will be angry. Yes, her friends will stick up for her and probably give you the dirty look.
But you know what? You'll have more nerve than any person who sits there lying. You'll have more nerve than those people who choose to cheat instead of ending it. You'll never be as ruthless as those who play with feelings for their own amusement. And you won't be a coward. You'll be a man who believed in his own feelings, and had enough respect for a girl to ensure that she was able to move on properly with as little hurt as possible.
You know what you have to do - you have to end it properly with her and take all her crying like a man. But that's a small price to pay to ensure that you and her have the chance to move on properly.
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