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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am really confused of what's going on right now...Recently, I met with my ex as he terrorized me with texts saying he wanted to see me so badly he has something to say. He kept calling until I agreed to see him.When i saw him, all he said was how much he missed me. And no doubt I know he was telling the truth, I saw it in his eyes. The way he looked at me. To be honest, I pitied him so much...i realized I still love him.But i told him the truth that I had a suitor who's on vacation and that I am planning to accept his offer to be his girlfriend once he comes back. I wanted my ex to know whats up with me. So atleast he knows i am moving on.The rest of the night we spent talking about what happened to each one of us after the break up and we acted like we are still together. We kissed, hugged, he even invited me to his hous but i have to say no as i felt I wasn't ready.The next night, I found myself waiting for his call. He didn't. So i sent him an SMS asking how his day was and he replied saying it was a busy day and thanked me for asking him how he is. For some reason, I became stubborn. I said to him goodnight and said happy trip to him. (he was going to travel after a week) I sound like I don't wanna communicate with him anymore. So he asked if he hurt me, he said he didnt wanna hurt me. Instead I asked him if he wanted to give it another try with me. I said, I don't have the time to guess so he might as well give me a straight answer. It took him an hour to reply back saying, if i can't wait..then I might as well go on with my life. He said, he has too much problem to take care of (he has to take care of his brothers wedding, so many stuff to buy, papers to finish etc). The way he constructed the message made me feel he was pissed off at me.This hurt me so much. I couldn't sleep that night. The next day, I wrote him an email to say that I am leaving him alone. But still I cannot think clearly, I sent him a series of text the next night to ask him why he had asked to see me again. I was okay when we called it quits and now my mind is messed up again. I tried to avoid his pleas to see me but he was so insistent, he wont stop calling.I know I should leave him alone and forget him as usual but can anyone give me an explanation why he asked to see me? Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, Stars20 +, writes (14 July 2009):
 wow you really fell for it. He just used you for that night cause probably there was nothing else available to get him off. I think he used you for his own relief with a whole lot of lovy-dubby and you fell. If you continue to fall for his sentimental crap you will be trapped in a circle of "usage". He will call you back and give you the "i miss you" crap, you will believe it, he will use you as he wants then give you the boot. This all depends on you. You have the call on this. He uses you if you want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): It sounds like he just wanted to play with your emotions. I would forget about him and if he keeps on calling you I would change my number. He is a loser and please, if you were okay without him in your life, do not let him disturb your life now. Keep moving forward and don't show him any emotions. Act like you don't care. If he was really serious about getting back with you he would have text you that day that he was "busy". I always say, you can't be that busy to not text someone you like. He didn't have a lunch break? He could have done it then. Don't think about it too much and move on. HE'S NOT WORTH IT!
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