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writes:I was curious as to where my boyfriend lived. So when I thought he was going to be gone, I drove by his house. I think he saw me, cause just as I was going by, he was backing out of his drive. He hasn't said anything, but I think he saw me. I feel really bad, but am scared to bring it up. He hasn't said anything. I feel guilty, and don't know whether the right thing is to bring it up and admit it, or just forget it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Thanks for all the great responses. Here's a little more info. and yes, I'm probably looking for validation. I am 60 yrs. old and met this man on match.com. He has been to my home several times. We live in a large metro. area. Our incomes, and locations are significantly different. I think a lot of this man's characteristics. But he doesn't live in the best part of town. So I thought I could gather info. by seeing his home, neighborhood etc. Trying to be cautious in my decision making. No, I don't want to stalk him, but I want to keep myself safe also. I probably will not bring it up, unless he does. And I won't do it again. You guys are awesome. I appreciate your input.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Just leave it. No reason to feel guilty, just let it alone if he doesn't bring it up. We've all done little crazy insecure things in relationships. I know that what you want right now is some kind of validation that it's OK, but talking about it will only make it worse. He might not have even seen you, because if he had he probably would have come over to say hi or confronted you or something. But regardless of whether he saw you or not, he hasn't brought it up meaning he hasn't been totally freaked out by it. However, if you try to bring it up it will just sound a little crazy. Just drop it.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (7 October 2010):
CaringGuy gave great advice. This type of action cries out "stalker", and/or that you don't trust your man and were checking up on him. Hopefully if you avoid the subject completely it won't come up and he'll get over it (or maybe you were fortunate and he didn't notice). Learn from this and don't do a repeat of anything similar.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 What! how dare him see you, you must be old enough to drive so you should be old enough to deal with a "serious" event like getting caught driving by a house where some guy lives. Drive anywhere you want to drive.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 October 2010):
Just forget it. And learn from this. If my girlfriend came around and claimed she was 'curious', I'd be a little unnerved. It would seem a bit needy and insecure to me. Say nothing, quit feeling guilty and don't do something like this without exceptionally good reason again. You don't want him to think you're needy.
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