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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for over 10 months now. The first four months were great, after that we had more and more arguements, and between 6-7 months were the worst, it seemed like we were constantly butting heads over everything, but I didn't want to give up on the relationship and I know he didn't either because I do believe *regardless of age* that we do love each other.We had a great 8-9 months, and even now and then and in between, not everything was bad, it's not like we had overly heated arguements, we just butted heads a lot and even now it seems like we can't see eye to eye.It's just like, I think we see something as a big deal, when we know it's not and we've gotten a lot better with our communication skills and learning to talk our issues out, but sometimes I just get so fed up, and I just want to scream at him, kick and throw things, but I know we all have our days.I know the arguements might be ignited by the fact that we see each other every day now since we go to the same school.Sometimes I think because of how young I am, I shouldn't be putting so much time and effort into a relationship that may never last forever, even though if you put the problems aside, I see amazing potential in our relationship, like kids and marriage and we have even dicussed marriage in the long-term.I just don't know when enough is enough. So can you tell me? When do you stop? When do you give up? When you feel fed up, is that when? Or do you keep pushing forward because the outcome can truly be something amazing? And how do you learn to see eye to eye with your partner? Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 You need to respect your differences. You're not with each other because you're a mirror image of the other, you are because it's the differences in each other you're attracted to. You will not always have it your way, and neither will he. What I feel you are both doing is you're trying to be right, when in actuality, you both may be right, or you both may be completely off. What's important is that you compromise and realize you don't have to be right. You say apples, he says oranges, who cares who thinks which one is better, they're both fruit, live with and accept that truth.
You give up when you decide you've had enough. No one has a set time frame that's extends to another. You said not to put into what may not be forever. If you haven't had enough to give up. I say to put into it, because it's what you have right now, and you can't yet know what forever may bring.
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