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writes: I'm 17 and I've been dating my girlfreind for about a year. I just recently lost my virginity to her and now I'm worried that im not satisfying her because she has much more experience. I'm not bothered by that fact, it just makes me wonder if im getting the job done. What can I do to make the experience more pleasurable for her??
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2005): I would agree that most girls need lots of clitoral attention, tongues being the best for doing this. It's not necessarily true that what works for you works for her, but having said that, pleasuring you will probably be a big turn on for her, even if she doesn't feel much during penetration. This applies especially if she's been turned on by lots of foreplay beforehand. The main thing is, cliched as it is, everybody's different so the main thing to do is talk and relax! This includes being able to laugh as sex shouldn't just be solemn and serious. Tell her what you like, both in terms of general technique and in terms of fantasies, and ask her what she likes. Don't be frustrated if she doesn't know yet what she likes, you can try lots of things together and see what's best.
(PS you're probably not thinking about this yet and might not have to, but if you have another girlfriend in future, don't assume she's the same or talk about what your ex liked - this is a big turn off to some!)
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reader, Amore +, writes (29 July 2005):
Hi!
One thing i have learnt with most women: They prefer stimulation to penetration. This rule does not always apply, but in my experience, it is true. Your tongue can be better than your penis sometimes, so oral sex is always a good way to get started before sex, just focus on the clitoris, make sure she's comfortable, then you can get on with the penetrive sex. Try different postions, see which one you both prefer. And talk to her, ask what her turn-ons are, communicate during sex, see if shes comfortable with what your doing. These problems cannot be solved properly by anyone else other than the couple involved.
Also, practise makes perfect, so don't worry mate, it will get better the more you do it.
Good Luck Mate, Amore
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reader, jess18maine  +, writes (28 July 2005):
 Hey man,
Is the sex good for you? If yes then don't worry, if it's good 4 u then mostly likly its good 4 her too, girls like the emotional side of sex, like if u like it she likes it because u like it. since you guys just started having sex it may not be all that good but trust me the more you do it the better it gets. I just lost my virginaty last year and the more my b/f and I did it the more i liked it, it did not start out so great but it gets better promiss. atempt to try new things, new positions, everything. although lots of girls can't orgasium though penatration, we tend to like the oral better. Clit stimulation along with penatration is best. FYI: boobs dont have much to do with it, but remember all girls are different, ask her what she likes, you have to be able to talk if you cant talk about the sex then your relationship won't make it very far. *BE SAFE* *BE SMART* An have fun!
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