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writes:I am 20 years old and i havnt had the best figures to follow i love my family but they arent educated and i appreciate them for getting me to where i am, i am the first o go to colege in my family besides my father who i didnt live with growing up, and i am too passive and need to learn to stand up for myself i was spoiled my whoe life and basically never taught any life lessons , i dont know how to be independant everyone has alwasy done everything for me and out of no where i am suppose to be independant, i want to really bad but im learning how to interact with people even bbefore i guess i was a spoiled brat because i could act anyway and get away with it, to me getting money was putting out my hand, i have no work experience and i am having trouble getting a job because i dont work well with others. i am trying but idk i need a life mentor or advice on life...i try to ask my family but they have bitter out loook on life and the way theyve shown me isnt right....any help suggestions? i am 20 year old female community college student and just want to get far in life with school and live right. i have no guidance whatso ever and i dont know what to believe or who
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Well you may have been spoiled, but you don't sound one bit like a brat... Brats don't admit that they're brats for one!
Life doesn't give you a mentor, there is no little microsoft word paper clip that pops up when you need help. You can get advice from friends or emulate role models, but life really is about diving in, making your own mistakes and then learning from them...
I've been given great advice from my parents... have I listened?.... nope! I just think, "well that won't happen to me" and go against their advice. Its only once I make a poor decision or mistake and feel the consequences of it that I actually truly learn a life lesson... and so should you :)
Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Im glad you are young and experiencing this. Sooner or later you will learn life lessons and you must be prepared as they are inevitable. We are human. We make mistakes and its just something we need to learn to live by as we all need to learn from those mistakes...and each other.
1) Do not be afraid to ask questions. You can ask me anything you wish. Asking questions regardless of what its about allows to get information and whether that info is useful, we can always filter and as you get older, youll know what to take away from conversations and what to stash under the barbell rack at the gym (at least thats my philosophy).
2) At your age I spent a lot of time learning from people from every age group. Assimilate yourself with a mentor and this can help greatly as I have one who is 50 years old and known him since I was 18. People make fun of that cause he's older but I could care less as theyre idiots and he's a damn good guy to have been in my life.
3) Choosing friends. Have a good sense of people and to develop that you really need instinct and chances are cause you may be naive, so youll run into some bad eggs and thats normal. Except, you must know what to do when you run into those people. Dont keep them in your life whatsoever.
Right now, youre in school. Focus on that. Talk to kids in your class about topics and meeting guys in school is easy as an excuse to talk is always about some sort of topic related to school whether its why zeus was such an a$$hole or why poe always wrote depressing poetry lol. Youll meet people and get exposed to life quick in college, use good judgment tho, and always ask people you trust for guidance. They can never steer you wrong and Im always here to help too. Good luck.
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