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writes:I am in love with a married man. We have known each other since High School. He has been married for 29 years. We have been talking for 1 year, we have never touched. We have talked about sex 7 or 8 times, the other times we talk about families, work and we laugh a lot. I have never been married. And I am 50 years old and have only been with the father of my children. He and my children are gone and now I am alone. I know it is wrong to talk to this man. We talk in the mornings, afternoon and 7pm til 8. He has made it clear that he can't afford to leave his wife and has nothing bad to say about her. I have asked him why does he want to talk to me, he says because he loves me, and he loves my voice and we laugh. I am hooked on these calls and I want to stop them but I am lonely. I dont feel right but at the same time I look for them. I don't want to hurt anyone. My question is, if he loves his wife like he says he does, then how can he love me as he says he does? And why does he want to talk to me all the time and doesn't want me with anyone else. He is lying isn't he? Why do men cheat on women they love? And it isn't sexual, it is emotional only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): "I don't want to hurt anyone."
Well, you are hurting someone, as well as yourself.
You deserve better than this.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 October 2010):
Don't be fooled by a male mind. The majority of the time, a man only considers an affair for the sexual side. Somewhere, he will be getting a cheap thrill out of this. He will not feel emotionally as you do for him. I think he's sensed that you are in a bit of a vulnerable state, and I think he is getting satisfaction from your calls. He doesn't really love you, and he is lying. He probably feels a connection, but the fact he won't leave his wife proves he doesn't love you enough. If he really loved you, he'd have left even if it had left him near broke.
I think your loneliness is now your worst enemy. You're looking for love and affection, all in the wrong places. for your own sake, reputation and happiness, you need to end these calls and make a move to do something else with your life. Start classes, do work, meet new people. Anything. Just don't let your loneliness continue to lead you down the wrong path, or people will find you untrustworthy. You have your own life to lead now, and this is the time to do something with it.
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