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writes:I want to wait until marriage to lose my virginity, for religious reasons, some, but mostly to protect my heart and out of fear of getting pregnant. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 1.5 years, and he's great. Lately, I've been thinking of doing it, because I love him so much and because I want to experience it. I need some advice on whether or not this is the smart thing to do. I know that if I ultimately don't end up with him, I will regret not waiting until marriage, but on the other hand, I feel so connected to him and want to experience this with him. Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Little Blue Flower +, writes (5 May 2007):
Hi well i know what you are going through i am going through the same thing, i know for a fact that i do want to wait for marriage but the closer i get to my boyfriend and the more tempting it is to not give in. I think if you really love your boyfriend and if the both of you feel the same way about this, waiting until marriage, then you should definetly do it, just wait
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reader, LittleTwoLegs +, writes (5 April 2007):
 Have you talked with him about this? Also, does he have the same views as you, even if he's not a virgin himself?
Right now I think you're definantly not ready, and I believe that yes you are connected enough to engage in it and emotionally strong enough, but because you're debating it puts a hault on the subject. Until you're 100% positive I'd simply suggest continuing to think about it, but rather as an observation and not as something you're weighing out to do yourself. Sex is another responsabuility in itself, and as you know there are certain costs that come with it if you end up making the decision to engage in it prematurely. The last thing anyone wants is to regret it, or for anyone else to regret it for that matter.
Ultimately this decision is up to you and your partner. The best advise I could give you is to talk to him in detail about the thoughts you've been having. I imagine you are open enough with one another; hopefully by now you guys have already talked about sex, but if not that is another sign that it should not be something you two invest in just yet.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (5 April 2007):
 I think that if your virginity is important to you and you feel that you would regret loosing it to him if you would break up, then don't do it until you get married.
Of course it's tempting to make love to him, it's only natural to want to physically close as well as emotionally to those you love. If it was easy to wait with sex until marriage, then the idea itself would loose its "magic", don't you think?
There's still plenty of stuff you can do together without loosing your virginity though. You don't need to go all the way.
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