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writes:Okay, so i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and about 2 months ago i found out through his friends that he had slight feelings for this other girl, who is meant to be his best friend. He told me he loved me but had a 'soft spot' for her. I got so angry and depressed I almot broke up with him. He said how sorry he was and how he would stop speaking to her, and he did. When i was last at his house (we have a long distance relationship) he told me that he doesnt even think of her like that anymore and he loves me so much...but now i see there really close again and friendly-flirty and i dont know what to do because im scared its going to trigger off his emotions again or something else, i want to trust him but i can. Help?x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): you can never make a guy stop talking to someone.you have to let him make his own decisions . hes lying to you when he says he doesnt like her anymore..other wise he wouldnt keep her around. a man who loves you would have never talked to her agian...break up with him FAST..you should be top priorty
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reader, Sakuchanz  +, writes (5 May 2010):
You just have to trust him. If YOU love HIM you have to. People lie, and people cheat but if he seems sincere (which I think he is because he even stopped talking to her for you. No one else) trust him. Thats what a relationship is.
With a guy and a girl as best friends most of the time one of them feels something more. Its just a matter of life. But he's with you, so don't let jealousy tear you two apart :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): I learnt a long time ago when a boyfriend has a female best friend, theres always complications, however thats my experience and there was ALWAYS feelings between them (out of four relationships).
Now as he has already said to you he has a "soft spot" for her, why are you with him if hes blatently told you hes got feelings for another girl?!
That fact that its a long distance relationship would only make you trusting him harder, especially now they're close again.
My advice would be to give in now before he hurts you or it'll drive you crazy. x
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