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writes:I've been trying to tell my friend how I feel about him by saying it online because I'm very shy and don't want to say it in school. I told him that I like him and other things like the way he's been distant is hurting me. Would he be offended? I'm always totally honest with him and he reads them but sometimes never answers. Should I write a letter telling him how I feel? I really dont want to annoy him at all?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 If he likes you ,it is unoffensive but if he is not into you ,then it is offensive. It depends on how you word it and how you tell him that his distancing is hurting you .
It can sound clingy and that is a turn off.
Sometimes , he never answers back.That is not a good sign.
If you don't want to annoy him, don't write that letter. Instead write your feelings into a journal. Keep a journal and pen your thoughts everyday in it.
If he is into you , he will chase after you .
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (5 May 2010):
I don't think he would be offended, but I don't think you'll get the results that you're looking for. You already told him that you like him and he sometimes doesn't even respond to what you tell him. He's avoiding you probably because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings because he doesn't feel the same way. What I got from your question is that you've already told him how you felt and he's not going for it. I would say no, don't write him a letter telling him how you feel. It sounds like you've already layed out how you feel and he's not going for it. If you absolutely feel like you need to, then do it. But don't expect anything from it besides getting some closure and knowing that you need to move on.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Write if you want, it won't offend him, it also won't help.
MB You are 18 now, it's time to cowgirl up. If you want it you are going to have to go out and get it. Ask him out. If he turns you down flat it's over and you can move on. That's the worst thing that can happen. He already isn't paying attention to you. If he accepts then you can build from there.
It is truly sad that you should be put in the position to have do ask, but that is the state of the world today. Guys are actively avoiding commitments to the extent that it is hard to get them to pay for a burger and a movie. You are going to have to get his attention the hard way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): Maybe try and write a no pressure letter, just saying something like of you don't feel the same way don't feel pressured to say you do, I'd just like to know where I stand?
You know him best.
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