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writes: My girlfriend and I have been having a long distance relationship for a few months now and we speak on the phone twice a day. I'm moving to where she is very soon but I cannot help but feel insecure in that she may have done something while I have been away. I trust her completely. Is it just me or do I pose the question that "Do we really know someone?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2005): Be careful, your insecurity will show and it isnt attractive. If she is allowing you to go through the upheaval of a move to be near her then I would say she is viewing the relationship as quite serious. Look upoon it as a fresh start and for goodness sake, dont quiz her all the time when you do move or she will soon tire of it.
Perhaps a good long chat to see where you both stand befopre the move will be a good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2005): Hey!
I believe that it's difficult to REALLY know someone, but you two have a relationship where there's trust, you will soon be close to her, so you just have to ask yourself if you have any valid reasons to be afraid that she might have done something.
When you'll be together you should talk to her, let her know how you feel.
And remember, it works both ways... so be careful not to ask too much of her. You should clearly define the "done something"(what is SOMETHING?) for yourself, make sure you don't expect too much of her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2005): It is really good that you trust her. But it is also good that you raised the question "Do we really know someone?". If she really loves you then she truts you too and will never ever play with your feelings. Of course there is a way to find out if she changed her feelings towards you or not. You can find that out by the way she talks on the phone, some little details. But if you don't see anything that changed and you still feel insecure then you will have to move to where she lives and face your destiny. But don't hint or ask any suspicious questions, imagine her really loving you and doing nothing wrong and you suspecting her in somethings, it will really hurt her feelings.
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reader, sunnydays +, writes (28 July 2005):
You say that you trust her completely so obviously its not that you don't trust her its that you are very insecure. If that is the case, then you need to work out why you feel insecure and fix it. At the end of the day you have to trust her until she proves otherwise. Do you really know someone? I believe that you never completely know someone and do you really want to either. You need surprises and unpredictability. But you should know deep in your gut if you can trust her. You say you can, so leave it at that. Just sort out your insecurities. Good luck!
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