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writes:Hey just after a bit of advice. I met this guy about 6 months ago after seeing him around a bit. At first he was really keen texting me etc and went to his house a couple of times after meeting up out (didn't have sex though). Then he started to back off, like if he saw me out he would be all over me but he wouldn't text me during the week or anything. We had a few fights (being drunk and all of course I confronted him about this)His friends said that he was really into me until the incident but now he will back off. He does seem like a bit of a ladies man.The problem is I will talk to him one moment when I see him out and then sometimes i ignore him and am quite mean to him when I am drunk.He got really angry the other week as I was ignoring him at the pub and at the end of the night I went up to talk to him and he was really mad at me and told me not to ignore him all night and then come up to him at the end of the night when I am drunk.I texted him and apologised and just said that I like him and don't know how to deal with my feelings very well and he replied "yeah well I am sick of the shit that comes from you so just forget it" which is understandable.I would just really like to talk to him in a place rather then the pub but don't know whether I should text him and suggest it or just leave it....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHehe no his name is not Wiki. I do want to send him a text and suggest a catch up for coffee or something outside the pub scene but I Don't know what to write and am scared he will just not answer or tell me to bugger off. I mean I could wait until I see him again but we will both be drunk and it will just be the same old same old....
I am working on not getting so drunk and confrontational as it hasn't done me any favours.
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reader, Not My Name +, writes (5 April 2010):
 oh lord, ... his name is not Wiki is it?
Anyway, yes, have sober interactions to find out where you are with each other.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 I think you should just leave it until he comes around . At the moment he has too much toxic in his system.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 April 2010):
 You could text him and ask him to meet him out of the pub and when you are sober, but then ? It sounds like getting drunk ,and therefore aggressive and confrontational, is something that happens to you fairly often, so even if you two get together, pretty soon the same accidents and fights would recur.
Perhaps right now your priority should not be your love life, but to try changing or moderating your drinking habits. It's not a moral judgement,- simply, as you have noticed yourself, smooth relationships and drinking binges do not mix well at all
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