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writes:when i have sex with my boyfriend i love it but when we get done he is always tired and it seems like he never wants to talk after we do and i love to talk after im a romantic girl that likes to talk about it after its over. he is always tired i dont get it i asked him if he just dont want to talk to me he said its not that he is just always tired and sometimes it makes me mad and i dont want to be like that i just dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (5 September 2009):
 Romance means sex to men and talking to women. If you weren't so young and anxious you would talk first and avoid the sleepy time. I know all this but still find myself nodding off soon after sex. I think that the best course is to fulfill your need for talk at other times. At least that works for us.
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reader, Perspicacious  +, writes (5 September 2009):
I'm afraid that you're getting mad at your boyfriend for something he has little control over.
Not only can sex be physically tiring, but during orgasm all kinds of chemicals get released in our bodies and some of those chemicals trigger sleepiness.
It probably effects some guys more than others, but basically men are designed to fall asleep straight after sex.
As such I don't have an answer other than 'it's normal' and hopefully understanding that will help you accept it when he does it. Perhaps you could try cuddling up to him and having a snooze too?
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reader, joe26  +, writes (5 September 2009):
 well some people don't like to talk after sex others do, just talk to him nicely when hes on good mood before you engage into sex.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (5 September 2009):
You should look up what happens to the brain after sex. A chemical is released that relaxes a person and often makes then sleep. He really is tired from that chemical and it has nothing to do with you. Google it and do some research and be glad he doesn't finish lay down and start snoring because that happens to a lot of people.
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