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writes:My question is a little vague, but I would love to hear any advice that anyone is inspired to share. Thank you in advance.How do I find peace within myself, and hold onto it? I feel like I depend too much on others to sustain my happiness, especially in romantic relationships. I'm a very sensitive person, so this does not work out well for me. There are times that I am very, very happy and experience what I can only describe as waves of inner peace and sincere acceptance, but, more often than not, I'm constantly worrying -- to the point of hours of tears and physical illness... almost everyday. I try very hard to hide this side of myself from others; it's difficult, because it consumes so much of my life, but I hide it quite well because I fear being more of a burden on others.I know this daily up-and-down, including the hours of tears, cannot be normal. When I was much younger, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and medicated for it (I don't take medication anymore), but I've always wondered if that was a misdiagnosis. If there is anyone here who has experience with bipolar disorder, I would appreciate your assessment of this situation (though I know you are not psychologists). Does this sound like a form of bipolar disorder to you, or something else? Sometimes I wonder if there is some sort of chemical imbalance that produces these highly variable emotions in myself... but from what I've read of bipolar disorder, it does not seem to fit. Episodes usually last months; they don't vary day-by-day.Ultimately, I feel like I am not good enough; this is likely a large part of my problem, but I don't know how to change this. More than anything else, I would appreciate some thoughts on how I can look into myself and not to others in order to find peace and contentedness.Please feel free to comment on anything in this post... Thank you very much... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Might I suggest you read this article? It has some great tips; I've just been reading it (it's by CodeWarrior). I would offer my own advice, but this goes above and beyond what I could say on this.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
You hang in there. PM me if you need anything :).
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reader, PLAYFUL +, writes (5 September 2009):
 It seem to me you have a depression I have some friends that fealt the same way latter they found out it was a depression so thats what it seem like to me well take the test and fine out even if your not its good to know..xoxo
http://www.lexapro.com/check_symptoms/dep_prescreener.aspx?agree=yes
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): I can't really offer a great deal of support, but i have suffered with depression which is a chemical imbalance in the brain, and causes people to feel useless, worthless, meaningless, a lack of motivation, lifelessness, have a bleak outlook on life, and even lose the will to live (in severe cases). All i can really suggest is go to a doctor and get their opinion on the matter. It might be that your suffering with bi-polar again, in which case he/she will probably prescribe some meds for you. I think it also would be useful to get a referel from a doctor to see a psychologist to help yourself see things in a more rational perspective. Once you start feeling better in yourself, i think it would be good for you to get out, go different places, try new and different things and discover yourself in order to find inner peace. I'm currently having a episode of depression, i think due to the fact that there's something missing in my life. I'm 25 years old and i still don't know who i am, what i am, where i fit in, or where i belong, i need to discover myself before time runs out on me. So, i guess you could say that i'm at war with trying to find inner peace for myself.
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