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writes:heyi wanna know why i feel like i want a baby... im only 18 an i live with my mum an dad an ive got a boyfriend of 3 yrs. I just feel like i really want a baby, im on the pill and sometimes ive felt close 2 missing my pill an having sex with my boyfriend to become pregnant but havent had the guts. I dont know wat is wrong with me, is this normal?thanks x
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reader, louiseee  +, writes (4 August 2009):
Its normal n__n
Your like me,wanting a child at a young age. Its just who you are. You feel ready,and just bescause you want a child isn't a bad thing people! She has a steady boyfriend as of 3 years,she's an adult who's ready. Everyone has their own opinions!
Tricking your bf is wrong,but you can easily write it off as an accident. I want to do the same thing :p
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): Is this wrong?!?It's so wrong it makes me sick to my stomach. Really. How can you even debate whether this is right or wrong? This is a "bundle of joy" to YOU. To him, this is WORK, full-time, for the next 18 YEARS! And if your relationship doesn't work out that long, then it means he may be going to PRISON if he can't keep earning money for it! This is responsibility that he does not want nor is ready for! A BABY IS NOT ALL FUN AND GAMES FOR HIM!
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reader, cthulhuhugs  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 Yes. It is VERY wrong to just stop taking your birth control to manipulate your boyfriend into getting you pregnant. Feeling like you want a child is normal, but from what you say it sounds like you've got a bigger underlying issue that you need to face rather than dragging a poor helpless life into this world when you are ill equiped to take care of yourself let alone it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): This would be a big undertaking...a lifelong committment to a new life. So tell us exactly 'why' you want a baby, hun. There has to be a reason. What is it that appeals to you about having a baby, now.
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reader, natasia +, writes (27 August 2008):
 I can't believe some of the 'advice' you've received here.
OK, here's my controversial view! : )
What you are feeling is totally 110% natural. You are at prime childbearing age, you're highly fertile, and your hormones (not your brain) have only one thing on the agenda: GETTING PREGNANT. The week when you have your period, you might have a sense of kind of getting sorted and starting afresh. Then you will feel pretty into your boyfriend for the next week, culminating in a few days where you just want to jump all over him. This is the point at which you are fertile! Then you will calm down about for the last week. Then it all starts again. I know you're on the pill, but if you're highly-sexed, you'll still feel broody.
Sensible arguments don't work, do they? If you love your boyfriend, I tell you, it's just normal (in natural terms - in the way your body is designed to work) that you would want a baby.
But sure, in practical terms it isn't so easy. I think this:
1) You mustn't trick your boyfriend - that really isn't fair. You should tell him how you are feeling.
2) If he feels the same as you, the two of you need to work out the practicalities of where you would live and how you would support the baby.
That's it. Simple, really. If your boyfriend doesn't want it, though, you must respect his wishes, and be patient.
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (26 August 2008):
Is it normal, maybe. Maybe the maternal instinct has started early. Either way im sure it is unwise to have a baby as youre not in the best position. Fight the feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): This isn't a feeling your having it is an incredibly immature and selfish decision that you are trying to make....The first poster has it about right, it is a dispicable thing to do to trick your boyfriend into getting you pregnant, and you would be making your parents the parents to their grandchild and this is completely unfair to them too. You ought to be kicked out of the house if this happens or you pull this off. You aren't responsible enough to parent a child or you would not even have to ask this question. Go talk to your minister, priest of school counselor or school nurse about what you are thinking of doing, perhaps they can help get your head screwed on straight.
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