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writes:My bf and I split up 7 months ago after a 3 month relationship. I told him I was happy to remain friends, and a few texts went back and forth afterwards (all friendly - I never sent any begging letters, never let him know how hurt I was, etc), but then he met someone else, so I stopped contacting him, even though I desperately wanted him back.A few months later and, although I would still like us to get back together, I'm quite philosophical about it - if we get back together - great, if not - oh well, it wasn't meant to be!Bumped into him a couple of months ago and had a nice 5 minute chat, but haven't had any contact with him since.But my dilemma is this... it's his birthday next week, and I had already decided not to text him Happy Birthday because it would make it look like I cared enough to remember his birthday and would look like I hadn't moved on.But I found out last week that he is now single again, so not sure whether to send a birthday text or not.Just feel it would be an opportunity to get the lines of communication open again, if that's what he wants. If there was no reply, I wouldn't be particularly hurt, and at least I would know where I stood, although perhaps my position would be weakened for a possible future reconcilliation.Or is it just best to not acknowledge his birthday at all?I'm very much of the opinion that if you're meant to be with someone then you will be, but don't want to let an opportunity to help things along pass me by!In a real dilemma here - all advice appreciated!Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your advice.As the majority of you say not to text, I won't! As I said, if I hadn't found out he was single, I wasn't going to text anyway!But just wanted to add that I'm not as hung up on him as some of you think I am... I have been dating other men, I have a busy life - full time job, hobbies, great friends and social life - I'm definitely not sitting at home moping!Ok, hung up enough to post a question here about him 7 months after we split up!!!... But he is a lovely guy, and I miss his company, so it would be nice to have him in my life at some level. But I am content with my life at the moment, so quite happy to sit back, enjoy life - what will be will be!Thanks for your advice guys - great to hear everyone's opinion x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Have some self respect girl. If he wants you he knows where to find you.Do not text as it WILL bother you if he ignores itMove on, have fun, if he contacts you, fine, if he doesn't you probably won't notice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Personally I wouldn't send the text, you say it wouldn't bother you if he didn't reply but I think it would,alot.He knows where you are if he wants to get in touch. You split 7 months ago and he chose to date someone else afterward, not get back with you.I would get out there and enjoy yourself,delete his number,move on, stop wondering 'what if' - life's too short
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Personally I wouldn't send the text, you say it wouldn't bother you if he didn't reply but I think it would, a lot.He knows where you are if he wants to get in touch. You split 7 months ago and he chose to date someone else afterward, not get back with you.I would get out there and enjoy yourself,delete his number,move on, stop wondering 'what if' - life's too short
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 Yes. Text him.Why?because you want to.*PLUS* He's single now.
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