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writes:So i'm in my final year at school and at the beginning of the year I got a new Science teacher. At first I just saw him as a teacher and didn't have any feelings for him, in fact I actually slightly despised him because it felt as if he would always pick on me and others had noticed it too. A few months went by and I started to see him differently, he makes me feel happy and confident and other teachers have even noticed how much more confidence i've got and the only reason I can think of is because of my Science teacher.In lessons he would always do things for me that he doesn't do for anyone else - for example, I said 'I need some paper and a ruler' under my breath and he would get it for me as quickly as possible, whereas if another student asked he consistently says to them 'You have legs, use them and stop being lazy'. He would always tell me to look at him and when I did, he would hold his gaze with a wide smile. When I do my work, my friends silently tell me to look up in which I would catch him staring at me. I needed more help with my work and he came and sat next to me and his leg was obviously touching mine under the table but he didn't move it. In one lesson when we was studying Bonding, he came over to me and said 'Bonding, its like two people who have a spark, wanting to be with eachother, theres someone for everyone' and then smiled. When I walked past him in the corridoor, I looked up and he winked at me, however, I didn't tell my friends because I thought they would think I was lying, but they saw it too. When he talks to me, he doesn't stop smiling or looking into my eyes. I think he knows that I have a thing for him because a girl in my class says sly things that give him hints, once she said something about love and mine and his name in the same sentance, he looked at me and saw the look on my face (a distressed, sad sort of look) and he said to her '(girls name).. please, thats enough'. I have told my best friend that I like him but she doesn't know how i really feel, after one lesson she told me that he didn't take his eyes off me, he just sat there rubbing his head and he seemed really down. People in my class say to me 'He likes you so much,he more than likes you and he makes it so obvious' Even my dad has noticed something, at parents evening, my teacher walked past me, and my dad said that he corner eyed me and turned away when my dad looked at him. Recently a girl in my class that I very rarely speak to came over to me and said 'I know this seems a little strange but I cant help but notice the chemistry between you two, the way you look at eachother, he doesn't look at anyone else like that, he is always looking at you' I just said to her that she was being silly and laughed it off. But this really isnt a laughing matter, its killing me knowing that I can never be with him. I'm sixteen and i've heard that he is 24. I just wish I didn't feel like this and that I didn't see him in this way. I have been told that he is leaving at the end of this year which is very soon, I don't know what I am going to do, I have NEVER felt like this about ANY male before. I want to tell him how I feel and leave it at that, I know that I can never be with him which is why I just want to tell him how I feel so that atleast I have it off my chest and he knows. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Wow, it seems from what I can read this man may have feelings for you and as you said you are in your last year in school and so is he. So why not wait and tell him at the end of the year. you are 16, the age of consent, in the UK so I do not see anything wrong with it as long as you wait until he is no longer teaching you. I too fancy my teacher and I have done for the last 4 years and he does the exact same stuff as your teacher,my friends say it all the time that he must have feelings for me as well as my dad when he is there a parent/teacher meetings! Its not that long too wait hun you have only another month or two! see how things go and if you are ready ask him! what is the worst that can happen!? I have another year left and I have to wait until Im 18 to legally ask my teacher out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): ****I'm the one that asked this question. Thanks so much for your answers, I'm starting to decide on what I should really do now.I also forgot to add that this teacher lost my work and repeatedly told me that I had lost it and once I got totally mad at him because he always denied that he didn't have it, so my mum phoned the school and he wasn't there, so she left our phone number and told him to call back, he called back on his OWN phone number and told my mum that he found it in his wardrobe. Does this seem strange?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): This just something you are going to have to wear.It's perfectly normal for you to develop feelings for a teacher. I would be surprised if you went through school without developing a crush in at least one teacher.But remember. A little flirtation is fine. It makes our interactions with people much soother and easier. And a helleva lot more fun.But be careful. It must not, at least whilst you are attending the same class and school at which he teaches, become anything more than that.You are both similar enough in age that I would have no moral issue with it if you were just two strangers who met in a supermarket somewhere.But as a teacher with power over you, it would be very wrong and very morally depraved to allow any relationship to develop.It's perfect;y fine to have a great friendship and admiration for this man and he for you. But the second it goes beyond that you invite trouble and he deserves getting fired (as you are at the age of consent, he would not be a sex offender, just be fired and find it difficult to teach at any school with that on his record).So keep it as light flirting and admiration. If, by the time you have graduated, the chemistry and feelings are still there, I would wish you the best of luck and happy life.Hope you work this out.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): You are of legal age in the UK. But it isn't legal as he is your teacher. When I was 16 my boyfriend was 31. LEGAL! I think you should ask him why he stares at you etc. Maybe tell him you like him but you don't want him getting in trouble with his job. Everyone has had a crush on their teacher even if they deny it. I've had several crushes. First one when I was 10 =PYou never know, you may become friends/more when school ends.Hope this helps =)
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