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writes: I am 26 yrs old, and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 2 month ago. It's been 2 months and you would think that I would be able to start moving on with my life and accepting the break up, but I can't. He was an actor and is now in a band, and constantly has women hanging on him and gawking at him, and it's so hard for me to deal with. I can't even get myself to move on and start dating other men. I spend my nights still feeling lonely and depressed, and cry myself to sleep. I have a lot of anger towards him as well, because he had decided to drop me, for his new life as a musician, and monogamy is not his cup of tea anymore. I have been in break ups before (one of 5 yrs and one of 3 yrs). But, this has got to be the hardest one yet. How can I move on, it almost seems hopeless...I still love him a lot and can't seem to live my life without him. I miss him a lot, and it hurts to see him loving the attention of other women. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): hey i do understand where you are coming from but the most important thing is that you do havw to move on i know its gonna be hard but do better things for yourself and beleive me GOD will send you the right man that is for you and another thing just pray GOD anserws all if you just beleive in him.
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reader, charliesgirl +, writes (4 August 2005):
I'm so sorry that you are hurting. Break ups are always extremely painful, and that hurt is only heightened if the person you loved suddenly begins moving on with their life, having recovered so fast from what for you was a terribly traumatic time.
Be fair to yourself- you were dating this man for 2 years and envisaged a future now together- now not only have you lost the relationship, and a big part of your life, but your dreams and hopes have been shattered too! You will be fearful about what lies in the future for you as a single person, and you may not be able to see this now, but there is so much for you to look forward to in your own life. As you point out, monogamy isn't for him anymore- so imagine settling down with this man and discovering in five years time, when you have kids, that he has cheating tendencies! It may not seem like it now, but soon you will realise you had a lucky escape...
It is important for you to draw on the support of your family and friends, and people you trust. Avoid going to any of the places where you might see him, if you have friends who still see him, ask them not to tell you anything about him as this will only slow down your personal healing process. You owe it to yourself now not to let this person hurt you any further.
Take time out to grieve your loss, and it will get better.
Good luck
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reader, lizzylizzy +, writes (4 August 2005):
This is hard because i have been through it to. Seeing other women around him, breaks your heart. You just want to move them all off him and tell them he is yours, but you don't own him to do that anymore. You have to try and overcome it, move on to someone new. There is no other way of overcoming the pain it's bring you that to set your mind on something else.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (3 August 2005):
 Oh sweetie I empathise with you. I am currently in the same position. My ex has a new love and is so in love with her. We were together for 4 years and he knows her for 5 months....so I know.
The best thing to do honey...is let him be. Eventually he will realise what a big huge mistake he made and regret it. Try not to be in the same place he is in. You need to be out of the situation to heal. You can't heal if you keep hurting yourself by seeing him with other girls. He has made his choice really. As sad and as hard as it is...it is what he wants at this point. YOu need to stay strong. Experience your grief and your hurt...you will be okay. It is hard I know ...I really know. Just take it one step at a time for now k and always respect yourself..Take care...Ana
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