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writes: please helpi have this friend that lives in argentina, we were boyfriend and girlfriend last year, but he didnt want to be with anyone at the moment so we were just friends. but we would always act like more than friends as we would say and do more than friend things. however recently i got him a present and i sent it to him but it has been more than 2 days and it hasnt arrived. he is really angry because of that and said i disappointed him very bad and he wont forgive me. he says that it is over with us and that he doesnt want anything to do with me. i dont see why he is doing this because i brought it and everything, it was a gift for him, he didnt pay, so why is he so angry with me?he is saying that he wants nothing to do with me which is hurting me a lot as i did a nice thing for him. I want to make it up to him but he says he doesnt want anything from me, it is so unfair. i want to go there and see him as i cant do anything here in the UK but if i was there then i could try to make things better as it would be in person, however, he told me before that he doesnt want me to go there and i think if i did he would be angry, very angry. but i really want to go, it would be our first meeting, but if i tell him he will say no and will get even more angry. If i do go i can go at the end of next week for about 2 weeks. i dont think i have much to lose as the way things are now i will lose him if i dont go and at least if i do go i have a chance, i either make it better or i will lose him maybe. what should i do? please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 1)He could get angry and ignore you
2)He could grudgingly meet you but will be uncooperative .
3)He could forgive you and be friends again .
Could be any of those options because we are not him and cannot tell what he will do.
In most of these cases, it is a forlorn conclusion that their interest have died and it is very hard to revive them.
If he wants to be friends or be interested, he will contact you .
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe doesnt have a girlfriend. he says horrible stuff when he is angry. if i did go there and didnt tell him i was going what do you think he would do? (he said before he doesnt want me to go, that he would come here)
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (20 March 2010):
He is a lose cause . For someone to get angry over something which you have no control shows his lack of love and understandings.
He is using that as a silly pretext to break off from you means that he is not anymore interested to be friends with you.Good friends don't do that.
If you are going over there to see him , it would not do you any good . You would be simply wasting your time and money .
He has already decided and he will not change even if you kneel before him or beg him .,
The only thing you can do is to give him some space and leave him to his own devices and let nature takes it's course.
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reader, yeah yeah(:  +, writes (20 March 2010):
i know it sucks when a guy you like alot gets mad at you about nothing! but im saying this from experience that when a guy gets mad at you over nothing and says he doesn't want you in his life anymore it's probably because he found someone else! when i was dating this one guy he did that to me and i didn't understand why but then a few days later he told me that he cheated on me and felt bad so he did what that guy is doing to you! so when he said he loved me and wanted me back it was because things didn't work out with the other girl! so when i said no i lost him as a boyfirend and as a friend but at least he knows now that im not going to be his second choice! but now we are becoming friends again! so if you give it some time things will probably work out! i hope i helped you a little bit! but if i was you i would not go to talk to him!
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reader, fishdish +, writes (20 March 2010):
 I think he has moved on, maybe has a new girlfriend, and doesn't want other girls popping out of nowhere into the picture/any mail that his gf could get suspecious of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): The guy sounds like a creep. No offence, but it's definately not worth it. If he gets mad over a present .. then he's probably not the right guy for you.
Try meeting a nice guy from the UK ,, that doesn't act like a total loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): OMG! Break up with the loser! If he doesn't want to be together, don't be!
If he comes crawling back, say no, but if you really like him get back together!
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