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writes: This sounds weird but how can I make friends? I've never been one to be popular or have many friends, but I had about 5 close friends from high school. I ended up loosing touch with them because 2 of them moved and the other 3 went off to college after high school while I stayed here and went straight to work in my family's business. I didn't want to go to college. I don't meet many people from my job. I volunteer weekly at an animal shelter and meet nice people there and educate dog training classes, but again those people aren't ones to hang out outside of that. I'm an only child with divorced parents so I do feel lonely sometimes. That's why I want to meet and have some friends but I don't know where to start. I don't want to come off as desperate or creepy.
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reader, angelalb  +, writes (8 September 2015):
My son is in the same boat. He has a few friends but not many. He is actually looking for a girlfriend. He is 22 and has not had a girlfriend yet. He is good looking but a little shy. I told him to look for groups with the same hobby he has. If you belong to a church some have outings for singles. There is a website call meetups you might want to google it. Good luck to you.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 September 2015):
 I think you have made a good start by volunteering and dog training class. However you might need to explore some different options, different classes etc if you aren't meeting the right people for you. You could also invite a few people for dinner or a fork supper.
They might then invite you back by return - and so your circle of acquaintances will grow.
You have to give out to get back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2015): You are not desparate or creepy because your life is full in other ways and you are not looking for,anyone to fill the loneliness because you are very busy, but you are open to the possibilty of unwinding with friends and maybe one day you would like to meet that special someone and move your life onto the next level of romance love and commitment.So i would suggest you join some evening classes to associate regularly with others on a non work basis.To get you started, have you considered art classes or astrology?It also is a good idea to take culinary courses because you can throw,a dinner party at the end.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (7 September 2015):
 Have you thought about looking your best buds from school. Catching up or at least keeping in contact may lead to rekindling friendships. I'd say Facebook perhaps the easiest and most casual way. What about cousins etc if you have them and around the same age- can you ask them to hang out sometime? What are your hobbies,if you don't have any maybe this is a good time to be thinking about getting some. You say that that where you volunteer the people are not ones to hang out with outside of that- Perhaps they could be if you gave them a chance. People can, and often do surprise you. Ever heard 'don't judge a book by its cover' and you already have animals in common. Have you thought about joining groups with a cause because in most cases you have no choice but to meet likeminded people and work together on how to get whatever message/promote it is out there and networking then takes hold. Hell, why not start your own group. Just have to be brave and put yourself out there.
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