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writes:hey... im 14 and still a virgin... im scared to loose my virginity but my mate says its fine... i really want to do it with this lad who i no... hes told me he wants to do it aswell but hes with another girl... i know that people say when your 14 you dont know who you like but i really love this lad and just want him to break up with his girlfriend... but he says he doesnt want to hurt her feelings... but he doesnt know how much hes hurting mine by being with her... i cry so much over him and i just want to do it with him... can somebody give me advice... much love...xxx
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reader, lushlass93 +, writes (26 May 2008):
 you are in the same situation as me at the moment
i love this lad and i wanted to have sex with him we were going to but we stopped beacuse we would hurt alopt of people but mine is with another lass to forget about this lass he loves so i am stuck in the middle i love him he likes me and we want to have sex
all i can say to you is wait unti he breaks up with this girl but ti sounds to me like he is using you necause he is saying he will have sex with you yet he wont finish his girlfriend it sounds like he is stringing you along but i diont know him so i cant be accurate on this just figure out what you really want cos you are still young and really i dont know if i wuld yet so just thinki about tit first
good luckxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008): He doesn't sound like he's worth giving your virginity to sweety. He doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend, but he want to cheat on her with you. I was a little older than you when I lost my virginity, but I lost it to someone I wasn't in a relationship with. I didn't know it at the time, but he has a girlfriend too. I really regret loosing something that was so special to him. You can only give it away once and it a lot better in the long run if you wait from someone that loves you for who you are and doesn't just want to sleep with you.
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reader, kate_black +, writes (26 May 2008):
Amazing,
i remember this situation. Precisely to be exact (still have my diary).
I know what it feels like. You love him but hes with someone else. A part of you is saying ''go for it'' but the other part is telling you ''NO, you can't''.
You have to decide. You could try to get him or you could leave it and move on.
Okay, that sounds stupid because if anyone said that to me I would have thought they were incredibly stupid and didnt really understand. Ofcourse you want to go for it, but its terrifing. So...you want to leave it but you know you can't.
This may be a controversial view, but i think that you need to tell him, about how you feel. Everything about how you feel (including the crying thing). The thing is he i rekon this boy isn't really thinking just of the other girls feeling, if he was he wouldn't really be getting close to you, would he?
I think he likes her, but he also likes you. The boy is confused. I think that you need to sort of leave this one up to him. Prepare for both senarios (he chooses you, he chooses her). But ahow him who you are, hang out with him. Try to develop a sort of flirty friendship. But be warned an idea may be not to do anything sexual with him until he has left his girlfriend, after all you don't want to be the one he goes for for a 'quickie'.
Hope this helps
Good Luck
Kate xx
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reader, :):):) +, writes (26 May 2008):
Ofcourse you know who you like, whatever age you are.
But the fact is he is seeing this other girl and splitting them up wont make you feel good.
I know how easy it is to see a few other people you're age losing their virginity and feeling like you have to lose yours as soon as you can.
But is the long run do you really want to look back and remember losing your virginity to someone you werent in a relationship with and someone who had a girlfriend?
It may not feel like it now but you will probably regret it.
Wait for someone whos more readily available who gives you all the attention you deserve and make it special. You dont get a second chance with your virginity afterall!
xxx
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