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writes:dear all. i am seeing someone who is realy charming. at the mo i am short of cash because i have gone from weekly pay to monthly. on weeks pay has had to last for 5 weeks. she has lent me £500. does other things for me, but i cant fall in love. i have been seeing her for 10 weeks. i find it hard sometimes to approach her. i use her car cos mine is off the road.i have tried to tell her that i dont feel right about the relationship but i just cant.i split with someone last year, july, thjat i loved and worshipped. could this be clouding my feelings? Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (26 May 2008):
 You are feeling guilty about really what boils down to using this woman. If you do not have feelings for her, and you seem to know this, then you are really leading her on and allowing her to develop feelings for you. You should find a way to pay her back the money she has lent you and then maybe take her to dinner or do something nice for her for the use of the car. Perhaps the two of you could be friends? though I am not sure what she is thinking at this time.
Really, if you don't care for her, let her know so she can go on and live her life. Seems you may already know this is the thing to do. None of us here will tell you what you're doing is just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Why did you break up with your first girlfriend.
You haven't been going out with your current girl friend for very long, maybe you need more time to fall in love, but then again maybe there is just no spark. Could you be hanging around because you do not wish to be left without the support of money and a car?
You need to do what feels right deep in your heart.
If you don't think there will ever be a future with this women than you should end it sooner rather than later. At elast for her sake if not for yours.
Good luck, I hope you find someone who you can love and worship again.
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