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*had79
writes:Dear Cupid,Iam a married women for 3 years and we have a good relationship, i love my husband and care for him, but i meet i man 1 year ago and fell inlove with him. we been keeping our relationship very secret and he also had a gf for so many years, but we cannot be together even in the future, right now, we are happy and having a good time when iam with him and he always makes me feel happy and good. he is very passion when it become in bed. i dont really feel sparks with my husband anymore. i need your help, i never fall inlove like this before and cant let go, i dont know what to do with my other man. but he still want to keep our secret relationship. i want to let him go but iam very obssess about him, and giving him anything he wants even helping him with financial problem, do you think iam doing a right thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): not only are you cheating on your hb, but you are ALSO STEALING FROM HIM FINANCIALLY. you are giving your lover money? why? your hb is already paying for a cheating wife, yet he now needs to have his money speant on the man you are opening your legs to. (and you do not see anything wrong with this do you?)
i am not going to tell you not to sleep around because right now you are focusing on another mans *ock only and not bothered about right and wrong. if you cannot be faithful at least stop being a thief as well.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 Well me personally I don't think your doing the right thing.
Today people seem to want it all and are prepared to lie cheat and decieve those closest to them to get exactly what they want.
I'd say you are in a mess of your own making. Your cheating on your husband and you do not sound like you want to stop. In turn the man your having an affair with is using you. He knows you wont leave your husband so he never has to commit to you. he is getting free exciting sex and seems you are paying for the pleasure...
Well they do say 'What goes around, comes around' Seems to be the case with you.
If you want to know what to do, BE HONEST, BE TRUTHFUL and start working on the mess you have created.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 You have to consider how this affair will affect others around you if they found out e.g your husband and his girlfriend.I understand that you have fallen for this man but take yourself back to when and why you decided to go ahead with this affair in the first place. When you have an affair with someone you may think you are getting away with it but the truth always comes out in the end, do you really want to risk your marriage over this especially as you know you dont have a future with this man?I'd say however hard you find it to end your relationship with this man you should just do it without allowing time to think about it i mean ok it might take time to get over but thats the same in any relationship that you might loose it always takes time.You need to concentrate on getting things back on track with your husband,spicing up the relationship for example concentrate on work and this affair will soon be at the back of your head good luck
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