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writes:Am I a bad person for wanting to leave my current boyfriend? We have been together two years, I care about him deeply and I think he is a great person with a lot of potential. But he is constantly making bad decisions and doing things that end up landing me in hot water. I have forked out over $10,000 over the past two years, bailing him out of his financial messes, paying his debts and rent when he doesn't have it etc. I am only in my mid twenties, am putting myself through grad school while working part time. He quit his job a month ago and is facing eviction from his apartment. I want to leave, I can't handle his drama anymore but I feel guilty walking away when he is in such a mess...
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reader, lost427  +, writes (1 June 2013):
first of all it very nice of you to help him out lke you have but maybe you should try saying no to the money your handng out and tell him if he does not help himself within a very short time frame then then your going to be out of his life for good , then there is your answer if he loves you and wants to be with you then let him make make the outcome for you,
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 June 2013):
 If you should feel guilty of something, it is only of not giving enough value and respect to your own life, and to have repeatedly allowed your bf to put you in hot water.
He is not your child or ward, he is an adult and he is responsible for the mess he makes or find himself into. You have been even MORE understanding and cooperative than any loyal partner should be ( 10000 USD in two yers for fixing up his blunders ?! ) and now it's time that you start straightening your priorities : the first of which is protecting your psychological and financial wellbeing.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (1 June 2013):
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Just leave, he is not your responsibility. If he is being evicted and you live together now, then you will both be homeless anyway.
As long as you pay his debts he won't learn the outcome of his bad decisions and they are his, not yours, so don't feel guilty leaving.
Focus on Grad School and your future, he has already had over $10,000 of your money which should still be in *your* bank for you. Instead you chose to help him out with it, so enough is enough now.
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