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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and I feel, perhaps due to past experiences, that he doesn't really want to be with me, he say's he does and he has never really given me any real reason to doubt this. However a girl he was seeing before he met me has made it clear that she wants him back and I found out last week that she is still contacting him via e-mail and he is responding even telling her about things we have done together. I want to know whether it is reasonable to ask him to have no further contact with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 I can say this much:
Your past experiences are no real way to know whether this guy really wants to be with you or not. Only he can answer that. Don't make the mistake of mistrusting him because of what other men did.
However, I don't think it's unreasonable of you to ask him to stop e-mailing the other girl. If you know she wants him back, then maybe he knows, too. There are different ways to react to situations, but I think this case demands that he tells her he is involved with you now.
I find it wrong that he's telling her things you two have done.
I don't think it would be good if you put him in a "it's her or me" situation. But, be clear about your reasons. He should understand. At least I would.
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reader, HelpingHand7  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 im in a similar bind expect im the guy and its my current and ex. girlfriend it all depends on how they interact with each other as in if they are really physical with each other or if they talk passionately. i think you need to make it clear that its boring you and see what he says im not saying tell him its her or you because that might get a undesired response but just be open with him.
hope this helps
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