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writes:Ok so here's the story I about 1 or two months ago I met this girl at church. We started talking and we have become really goood friends. She knows about my life and I know about hers. I really like her nd I'm starting to have fellings for her but she told me she had a boyriend, I'm happy for her but I want to be more then friends. She recently asked me if I like her and I told her the truth she said she asked me this because people had asked her if we liked each other because we're hanging out. I want to know how to ask her about how she feels about this guy and not ruin the great friendship we have. Please I desperately need some help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (26 July 2010):
Keep being friends but don't give her all your attention or free time. Pay some attention to other girls that she knows. If she likes you, she might come running to you. Don't burn any bridges, but don't chase her endlessly either.
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reader, los3-5 +, writes (26 July 2010):
los3-5 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys but you know she has me so confused because I guess I'm not reading her signals well, I don't know y she would ask me that question thought. Is it ok if I ask her what she thinks about me? And for the record this is not the first time I fall in love
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (26 July 2010):
Leave it alone...Your first love is to open your heart and mind to the feeling of love, not to hang too for the rest of your life. Some people get lucky that way, but most don't.
Sometimes when people focus too much on one person, they miss others that might have been waiting for you to pay attention.
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reader, xnickx +, writes (26 July 2010):
 If i were you, i'd forget about the prospect of being more than friends with this girl until she's single.
And don't push her to break up with him either. If youre happy for her, then be happy for her. It sounds like she could like you as well, but it also sounds like she isnt quite sure what she wants since she has a boyfriend yet is acting like this towards you.
She's dating this guy, she obviously has some feelings for him, i guess the question really is if her feelings for him are greater than her feelings for you. If you put it that way, she'll more than likely think about it.
The problem is, no matter how you put it, shes going to more than likely catch your drift which could ruin your friendship or take it to the next level. No matter what you do, there is ALWAYS the risk, no matter how subtle you are, of ruining the friendship. Again, id forget about her until she's single.
Nick.
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