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writes:well theres this guy i have always been pretty close to, we have always been good mates but i never thought it was anything more...That was until one night at a mates house we slept together(he was my first), he was really nice and made me feel really comfortable at the time,but afterwards he completly stopped talking to me.This really sucked for me as i realised i actually really liked him as more than a friend. He then went back to his ex girlfriend basically straight away, (they are split up now though).I felt like i had just been used and therefore felt really stupid,niave and slutty for having sex with him.After a couple of months we started talking again but things were never the same. Then one day one of friends told me that he has been self harming and that he had tried and failed to commit suicide. This really upset me as i really care about him. When i was told that as well as his many family problems one of the reasons why he was driven to this was me... he said he felt really bad about how he treated me but of course i had forgiven him long ago but he just couldnt seem to be able forget about it and move on.I never see him anymore as school is over and we dont meet up, i am really worried about him because he's in a really bad place right now taking drugs, drinking and joyriding everyday, im scared in case he does something stupid. To be honest i think i love him and i just wanna help him but i dont know how :/
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (2 September 2010):
We are not saying to forget about him! iam saying it needs to be left for the professionals to handle you can still be there for him and show your support! that is what friends are for!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey, thanks sooo much everyone who replied to me i appreciate all of your opinions and they have really helped me..i just cant forget about him he's my friend like, so im gonna do all i can to help him.I know im not a counsellor but after reading your responses i think i might be able to help (he has acc been counselled before but he didnt agree to go his mum just made him, so he felt betrayed and it seemed to make him worse cause he felt like no one supported him). well thanks again for all your advice xx
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reader, Tiger1357 +, writes (30 August 2010):
Why dont u just try to ask him out and tell him that your there for him and will help him out with his problems if he feels bad about betraying you just tell him you forgive him and just tell him how you feel about him if he really cares about you he will change for you hope this hlps you xD
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): just give it up girl some guys are like that and you just need to wait till the right guy comes around and he won't treat you like that
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Have you tried telling him how you feel about him? I'm pretty sure he didn't try to commit suicide because he regretted sleeping with you.
When you tell him, he'll remember that there are people who love him. Talk to him, let him tell you what he's really depressed about. Sometimes there is no particular reason, the death drive is just an urge but since his friends already informed you of a number of reasons for his attempt, you know that YOU can help him.
Be careful with this though. You have to let him know that you're there for him. Friends are a good thing to have during depression.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (30 August 2010):
He has to help him'self you are not a counselor and no nothing about his deep issues there are more then you can inmagine. why don't you talk w/ your mom, maybe she can give you some good advice! some kids seem to ignore the parents when acturally they can be pretty helpful! there not out to hurt you if you have good parents!! you can remain his friend but don't play wonder woman talk w/ your mom.
don't hesitate if he has tried to committ sucide kids have followed through w/ it and succeded good luck!
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