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writes:Please help! I am a married woman, I'm 25 years old, and I've been married for 5 years. My husband and I rarely have sex. I'm the only one even trying to instigate anything. I don't think I'm that picky when it comes to sex, I like my husband to be clean, to have fresh breath and I prefer to have sex at night. I would have sex at other times to, but my personal taste is at night. It just has a romantic sense to it when you can light some candles or if its pitch black and you have to feel your way around. As I mentioned earlier, fresh breath is very important to me. Bad breath is a HUGE turn off for me. Every night, even though he says he brushes his teeth, his breath is not good. I don't know what to say to him anymore. Its as if he could care less about what I like when it comes to that stuff. 9 times out of 10, he is the only one who gets off during sex. It frustrates me, he doesn't seem to have the patience to get me there. I don't know what to do anymore, I've voiced my thoughts, and nothing changes. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to resolve the situation? Thank you in advance.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (19 July 2012):
do you seriously have a happy marriage? Do you love him and does he tell you he loves you? If not, then ask him if he loves you.
It's not a good sign he doesn't care about the problems.
Also the fact that he doesn't care that you rarely get off is not good.
A man who cares will make sure you get off, for instance by going down on you. I suspect he never does that huh?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2012): Also have him swish peroxide in his mouth after brushing. It kills bad breath and bacteria. I would give advice on this but I can't as I am in the same predicament. When my husband started doing this he would complain that he is tired and so I would try to initiate and he would shoot me down and say he hate I when he felt forced into sex. Initation is a dangerous game to play because it can crumble your confidence. After that I played hard to get for a few days and then started walking around in lingerie and cute panties I knew he liked but wouldn't even ct interested in sex. Then he grabbed me up one day and it was very passionate. Maybe that will spark an interest in him. Just don't walk around expecting him to notice. Act like you don't give a fuck and you just want to look sexy for yourself;)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (18 July 2012):
 I suggest that you show him this submittal some time - say, tomorrow - during the AFTERNOON!!!! .. .And tell him that YOU wrote it.... and that you REALLY fancy him.... and that the details in this submittal delineate some issues that you have with him.... and "Can we work on them, so that we can work together to make a GREAT marriage????"
Good luck...
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reader, Geriatric Emo  +, writes (18 July 2012):
 There are several medicated toothpastes, like Corsodyl (sp) that, while more expensive than standard brands, are infinitely better.
However, it sounds like bad breath may be the tip of the iceberg. From what you say he just doesn't seem to give a damn. The only thing you can really do in that situation is make yourself unavailable. Make him do the work to gain your interest, rather than acting the role of the "sure thing". If he tries to initiate sex, refuse the first few times.
"Treat 'em mean" isn't a tactic just to be used by us guys, you know ;-)
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